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Wrong Person, Right Time

Sarah Suhaimi on August 3, 2017
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The old adage usually says that we find the right person at the wrong time. But it’s the exact opposite. We are projecting our desires of a fantasy (what we think is right but actually wrong) at a certain idle time.

The right time-window will enable us to be attracted to the wrong person. And the wrong person is the wrong person not because they are inherently a wrong match but because they just happen to be the wrong choice.

You could meet hundreds of people who aren’t a wrong match but it takes abundantly more to not be the wrong choice.

No, it’s not circumstance. It’s your choice.

When you’re feeling particularly vulnerable—whether emotionally, mentally, or physically—you’ll be hyper conscious to those with these similar traits. And you’ll seek them out.

And the wrong person that you meet will hit these spots and trigger you to do things completely outside of your comfort zone.

Why are they wrong then? Venturing out of your comfort zone may be good, but you can’t leave it to the point where you have no ground.

They are wrong because they match your current wrong frame of being. You’re not erring because there’s passion between you and this person; it’s the passion to take care of what’s stirring inside you.

Wrong feelings. Wrong desires. And yes, the wrong person. But it feels so right. It’s the right for the right now.

It’s the right time to do the wrong thing. To risk making bad decisions. The right time to speak too much. To move too fast. The right time to f**k up.

Don’t make excuses of alternate geographies, experiences, or timelines. It was the right time to meet the wrong person to really embrace what’s holding you back.

That doesn’t mean it wasn’t valuable. It can be crazy wonderful. It'll burn so bright, and you'll feel things you didn't know you had in you. And then just like that, it'll leave you. As fast as it arrived. But it doesn't end there…The wrong choice only moves you closer to the right one.

Here’s the difference: the wrong person will only be the right person when it’s the wrong time. No longer will it be convenient.

So you have to rejoice meeting the Right Person at the Wrong Time. Because when we meet the right choice, we will step up even if time is against us.

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Posted by Sarah Suhaimi

Sarah Suhaimi practices 명음 by day and the art of dark chocolate bar swindling by night. She is currently working closely with a local Pittsburgh non-profit that serves sex-trafficked victims, Living in Liberty, as a volunteer and grant proposal writer. She founded the Southeast Asian Student Alliance (SEASA) at her university, and, as well, the "Offer Islam Campaign." Her works vary from prose to poetry to articles. Her published works include, ‘The Home of an Immigrant’s Daughter’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2012 Dublin Biennial, Dublin, Ireland and ‘Hidden Beauty Reveals Itself (Intellect Vs Instinct)’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2011 Florence Biennale VIII, Florence, Italy.

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  1. Sahara April 30, 2018 at 8:38 pm

    I agree with this article…especially the last part. Big question is what if “wrong” time pertains to being married? Will it be easy to step up if one is already married?

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