Guest Posting

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the Urban Dater is all about the search for love, lust, and beyond in the digital age. If you have a dating story to share we not only want to hear about it but we want to publish it.

Below are our guidelines for both guest content contributors and advertisers. You each know who you are. Don't play usWe're happy to help everyone get the most they can out of our platform.

What We're Looking for

the Urban Dater is a blog chronicling first-person stories of romance and relationships.

  • We are looking for previously unpublished work.
  • Any topic related to dating, sex, or relationships.  Use the search function on the site to dig around and make sure that you aren’t delivering the exact same advice we’ve all heard 100 times. Make it interesting!
  • We prefer stories that are rooted in the present, not the distant past.
  • Each story needs to have an arc. Mere musings on the state of your dating life won’t do.
  • We like stories to have a strong sense of place and to feel rooted in where ever it is that your story takes place.
  • Send a 700- to 900-word submission in the body of an email (and not as an attachment).
  • Stories must be true. Everything in each piece must be factually correct. No exaggeration, no fictional or composite characters, no hyperbole for the sake of dramatic effect.

Topics We Don't Want to See

  • Incel / Red Pill drivel.
  • Marriage and Engagement content.
  • Getting Your Ex back, getting someone to text you back, etc.

We understand that these stories are personal, and we will edit them with the greatest sensitivity we can muster. But we will edit — for content, for length, and for tone. We see writing and editing as a collaborative venture, but ultimately the editor’s decisions will stand.

Multiple editors are involved in the selection and editing process, you will receive notifications regarding your article via email. You may reply to the email directly or log in, go to your article and reply there in the Editorial Comments section.

Some Style Notes

  • ONLY ONE SPACE AFTER PERIODS. Anything with double spaces after a period will get the article kicked back to you. Spell out all numbers up to 100. Consult Grammarbook for any grammar/punctuation questions you have.
  • If you want to talk about your experience or an opinion–go for it!
  • Include sources. If you want to state facts, make sure to back them up! Link to other articles! Make it personal, or act as a true expert–we love both! Include a photo that relates to your post that we can add. The photo should be a minimum of 800 pixels wide to fit with our format. Always give credit and source for the image you’re using. Be sure that you have a license to use the image for the post you submit. Creative Commons licenses allow usage as long as you attribute the source and give credit to the rights holder. Royalty-Free doesn’t mean you can use the image for free; you still need to get permission to use the license.

Visit our Style Guidelines for more complete details

Additional Notes

  • Set up a Gravatar account and link it to the email you send us your story from.
  • Send us a link to your prior work.
  • Proofread your post. Only Alex slides by without proofreading, and Betty doesn’t have time to check your work as well as his.
  • That said, expect some edits–it’s not that your work isn’t wonderful, but having a second set of eyes do a quick skim and fix up any lingering spelling/grammar errors, as well as tailoring to fit our audience and adjusting for SEO is pretty standard.
  • Have fun! This is an elective process and shouldn’t feel like homework, so enjoy it.

Are you an advertiser? A content marketer? A robot?

If you are interested in advertising a product or service, please review our Advertiser Guidelines here.

Although we receive so many submissions that it’s not possible for us to publish them all, we so appreciate the time, energy, and creativity given to us in every single one. Thanks for taking the time to reach out to us, and we hope to see you around the Urban Dater soon!

the Urban Dater is here for YOU. We WANT you to succeed and use our platform to amplify your voice if that's your intent. Or we want to be a safe space where you can publish your works about dating, sex, and relationships. We understand you have things that you wish to promote. That's a-okay with us. Please let us know. We'll allow that free of charge. But you kinda have to have your shit together. Meaning, you should have a website, the inklings of a following, a somewhat viable social media presence etc.

  • Q – If I purchase sponsored content will I get a ‘do-follow' link?
    Answer: Yes, you do!
  • Q – How long will it take for my article to publish?
    Answer: Within 24 – 48hrs but usually sooner.
  • Q – Will my sponsored content include tags or categories marking it as an advertisement?
    Answer: Probably. We're supposed to as not doing so hurts our site (thus your advertising investment).
  • Q – Will my sponsored content stay on your site forever?
    Answer: If you have an infinite budget you can have an infinite placement. Articles are placed for a year. You may pay for additional years at a 15% discount.
  • Q – Do you allow Adult, Casino, CBD content on your website?
    Answer: We do. but, and a very big BUT, your article cannot be blatantly about those topics. If it looks like an advertisement then no, it's not allowed. If it reads like a natural article with a couple related links that's okay.
  • Q – Is there anything else I should know?
    Answer: We may pull your article (without notice) if it is linking to toxic domains that are hurting our site.

This form is for new authors who HAVEN'T written for the Urban Dater before. If you've already contributed content to us in the past please login here  

If you’re providing a simple article to us (meaning you’re not promoting a product or service) fill out the form below. If you’d like to talk about advertising or promoting a product or service (sponsored post), use this form to get in touch with us. If you submit an article that we deem to be sponsored or promotional we'll delete it without notice.

Submit your Guest Post here

Guest Post Submissions

Would you like to write for the Urban Dater and submit a guest post? Please use the form below to submit your article to us.

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User Registration Info

Your Name*
Used for your user account at the Urban Dater.
Please enter the author name to be used for your articles.

Article Info

Copy and Paste your article below. Articles already marked up via HTML are appreciated, but not required.
*Note* If you use this option, be advised you need to format your content with HTML tags and appropriate spacing.

** DOUBLE-EXTRA NOTE! ** DO NOT PLACE YOUR BIO HERE, please. There's a Bio field below that you can place your info. To ensure that your photo shows up as well, make sure you use an email address that is used at
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Have an image you'd like to use for your article? Upload it here.

Author Info

Please provide a brief author bio to include as part of your article.
Please make sure to provide us your Gravatar email. It will tie in your Gravatar photo to your author Bio. If you do not have a Gravatar, set one up at
Do you have a blog or website to promote for your article? If so, let us know about it here and put in the URL
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Terms & Legal Info

Terms and Conditions
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For more information on rights and usage, please give our Terms and Conditions page a read-through.