online dating advice, relationship advice, the urban daterthe Urban Dater is a blog that covers the topics of dating, sex, relationships, and love. It’s a place to chronicle all the discussions on the stomach butterflies, the heartache, the confusion, and the joy that comes with romance, and place them in one space for all to read.

the Urban Dater is about featuring real stories and real life experiences, and in the process, hopefully imparting some wisdom to the Urban Dater’s many readers.

Who/What is the Urban Dater and How Did it Get Started?

the Urban Dater was started by Alex Vasquez, a web developer by day and boring mouth breather by night. He wanted to sharpen his internet marketing skills and learn the burgeoning SEO game, as it was at the time.

Over the years the Urban Dater has taken on a life of its own and it’s been interesting to see it morph over the years from a single author blog to a community with a couple hundred over three hundred contributors. the Urban Dater has become a well-read and highly visited site that provides information, education and inappropriate humor (and we like it that way).

What Else Do We Do?

In addition to our regular blog posts, we also take questions from our readers. We also offer other bloggers the ability to promote themselves and their projects with Guest Posting Opportunities. For advertisers, the Urban Dater is a content rich platform with new content on a daily basis. We offer a variety of opportunities, from sponsored posts, text links, banner ads and more.

Who are we?

We’re just a couple of folks, just like you, that have some things and some stuff to say about dating.

Alex Vasquez — Founder of the Urban Dater, Dev Lead and the Honorably Mentioned “Editor-in-Chief” of the site.

Betty Mars — Betty is the Managing Editor of the Urban Dater who has recently been on a leave of absence. She’s a seamstressing, book devouring, social media maven that likes a good-stiff drink and keeps Alex on his toes.


  1. We're not sure if you've heard about Cheek'd yet, but thought you may be interested in the new & cheeky dating company to be covered in your blog– we launched in May of 2010 and have taken off as the reverse engineered dating site– bringing the online shop back to the streets (via a business card sized introduction). Attached, are a few of our favorite articles and a funny German news video about Cheek'd. You can also check out our site at <a href="http://www.cheekd.com” target=”_blank”>www.cheekd.com.


    Lori Cheek

  2. […] I find what makes for great love making rarely has anything to do with how we wish to feel ourselves. What I mean by that is it’s typically about the other person. If we take care of the other person’s needs, they’ll reciprocate, ideally, if they give two shits of a rats ass about you. Then, the other thing I found, of course there’s always listening with your body… You can close your eyes and feel your partners body against yours, listen to their moans, feel their heat and exertion… Yeah, that whole listening with your body thing has some merit. – Alex of The Urban Dater […]

Comments are closed.