Category: Dating & Relationships

the Urban Dater often examines the intricacies of dating and relationships. Dating is hard enough and then relationships often cast another layer of difficulty into the mix. Hopefully, the stories our contributors share will help you in your own relationships or dating experiences.

My Firsthand Experience Sugar Dating and Why I’m Disgusted

It all started one day when I was scrolling through YouTube videos at home. Serendipity, I suppose, led me to a video that billed itself as the most successful sugar dating website. In the video, a man revels in the...

/ May 14, 2019

Five Brutally Honest Observations from a European About Dating in the US

It’s been two years since I’ve visited the US. I went to New York City for four days. Boy was that an experience. I live in Moscow, Russia permanently (although I’m German). The dating scene here is similar because fundamental...

/ April 23, 2019

10 Reasons Why Guys Stop Texting for a Few Days and Leave Us Wondering?

You've been messaging this person you genuinely like, and however arbitrarily, the discussion ends. Did he overlook your messages? Why do folks quit messaging for a couple of days? You've been messaging this person you genuinely like, and however arbitrarily,...

/ April 18, 2019

I’m Not Ready for a Relationship (With You)

It is better to have loved than to not ever loved at all… BUT It is better to have escaped a doomed relationship than to have tried one after all. This is an open letter addressed to those who have...

/ April 1, 2019

Did I Waste My Time?

The first thing I said to my Tinder date, L, was “You’re probably wondering why I called you here today.” I shouted as I tried to elevate them above the dull roar of the Dodgers faithful at the Verdugo Bar,...

/ March 14, 2019

The Makings of Mr Nice Guy and How to Step Up

How many of us grew up believing the typical success story: that by ace-ing our grades in school, getting into University, followed by corporate employment is a form of success? You're ‘supposed’ to fall in love and get married, get...

/ January 30, 2019

Escaping The Friend Zone: How We Both Climbed Out Together

Knowing you’re in the friend zone can be a harsh reality. However, escaping the friend zone can be an impossible endeavor. Pulling that task off with your best friend may give you a fighting chance, if you’re lucky. My fiancé...

/ January 29, 2019

How to Spot An Orbiter (And What to Do About It)

Orbiter: the guy who cycles in and out of your life, usually for a need (physical, emotional, or mental), attention, or an ego boost. He gets his fill and then departs until he returns to ‘orbit.’ The preceding formal definition...

/ January 22, 2019