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Confessions of a Jerk: Telling Someone I Was Dead.

yannibmbr on November 27, 2009
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I had this friend I met in college.  Super sweet girl and super nice.  She had a huge crush on me and wanted to hang out all the time and she would call me.  All the time.  I was ready to throw her into the sun.  However, I did spend time with her, as friends.  I kept it as non-romantic as possible.  That is, we never went out to romantic places to eat and I never had drinks with her by ourselves and I never invited her over or went over to her place when she was the only one there.  When possible I tried to make group outings with her… That didn't seem to work and I was going to have to go to extreme measures.In spite of my personal ‘safeguards' to keep things platonic she was still wanting more than friendship.  This gal was popping up at my job and I started getting grief from my boss about the situation.  She would call me at home continuously and I started getting grief from my family.  Everywhere I turned there was this person trying very desperately to make something romantic happen.  One day she called me six times and I didn't call her back once.  Well, my cousin was getting angry at me and told me to do something about it.  Well, I was too much of a sissy boy to do what a man needs to do and tell her to leave me alone.  My cousin took things into her own hands at that point and proceeded to answer the phone the next time my friend called.  My cousin told her that I died in  a tragic car crash.  This did not stop my ‘friend' from continuing to call…  After about a week the calls stopped and her car stopped rolling by the house.  I had a whole summer to myself without this girl pestering me…  The next semester of classes came up and as fate would have, this girl and I had the same class together.  Imagine her surprise when she heard my name come up when the professor was doing roll call.  It made for an uncomfortable moment and forced me to deal with this person.  It was clear we could not be friends and things had been made worse because of my immaturity and unwillingness to deal with the situation promptly…

Don't tell people that are into you that you're dead, just tell them you don't want to see them any more.  If that doesn't work, have someone tell them you died when a torpedo struck you in the face.

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  1. tornadodating November 27, 2009 at 6:43 am

    I wouldn't say you were a jerk, just scared to tell the girl you weren't interested. It's never easy, but I agree telling someone you died isn't the best way to go. Tragic car accident isn't good story either.

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  2. datingintheoc November 27, 2009 at 8:26 am

    Horrendously honest. Ugh. Okay, I accept that you did this as a college student (emotional toddler) but am glad that is not the approach you would take now. Unfortunately some men of adult age still would prefer to play dead than have one tiny little awkward conversation that simply says, "Hey…I don't think you're for me but I enjoyed getting to know you." Or "Your feelings seem to be stronger than my feelings for you so I think it would be good to take some time apart as friends. I'll definitely contact you if I'm interested." When you know they like you and you stay in Vagueland you owe it to the woman to be crystal clear and send her little heart a 'packin'.

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  3. yannibmbr November 27, 2009 at 7:26 pm

    Well, to be more honest 😉 I think even though I didn't have feelings for this girl, I still enjoyed the attention. I know this may come as a shock, but I didn't really get a lot of attention from the ladies in my college days. I'm just sayin'.

    @tornadodating – After reading up on some of your dates, maybe telling them you're dead isn't such a bad thing after all. =)

    @datingintheoc – You are far smarter than I and a lot more mature, but I think we already knew this. Very wise indeed.

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  5. Si October 29, 2011 at 9:55 pm

    Cruel! Lol

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