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Confidence

Rick the Look on October 11, 2012
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A few months ago something happened to me. I stopped giving a shit about the things I couldn't change and started caring more about what I could change. Myself.  It led me on a journey to search for answers. Answers to what? Why wasn't I dating more and why wasn't I finding the types of women I wanted?  Simple. Because I wanted whores, not women. What was missing, you ask? Confidence.

Does anyone truly know what this word really means when it comes to dating? Confidence does not mean showing off, because in reality no one likes a show off and no one really cares what you have.  Let me tell you what confidence is, confidence means that you are sure of what you have and you do not need to impress anybody for them to like you.  This means, not bumping your radio really loud, having huge muscles to impress and definitely not talking about how much money you make, thats not confidence, its plain stupidity.

Here's how I now define confidence:

  1. Know yourself – Be sure of what you are saying and dont think twice about it and don't apologize for it.
  2. Make decisions, do not procrastinate.
  3. Lead – Nothing says you're confident more than a man who can lead from the front
  4. Don't change for anybody. If you don't want to get married then don't. If you don't want kids, don't have them. If you don't want to do something, don't.
  5. Most important factor- Man UP! This goes for women, too.

Look, people. I make fucking decisions. That's what I do as a man. When I've been dating over these last few months I really don't ask a woman what she wants. She's with me because I'm confident and I just don't give a fuck.

When I was out with women or friends, I just let shit happen I never made decisions for myself. Now that's all changed. I say what I want to do and where I want to go. I let it be known and I don't care if it's a bad idea or not. I know what I want and when I want it.

Some say people never change. I say those people are fucking morons. People do change, but it's often for the wrong reasons. When I change, I change for ME! I never change for anyone… The type of person who is right for me is someone that doesn't think I need to change.

Remember, have a good day… I always do!

Rick the Look

 

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