You’ve heard the line a thousand times. “I would never meet a guy at a bar.”
Quality girls everywhere are insistent that there is no possible way they would meet their future husband at a bar.
Nonsense.
These bold declarations are being based on all of the terrible experiences that they have had to deal with in bars their entire lives. Women who attend bars are perfectly attainable; it’s just a matter of having the right approach and attitude.
Let’s take a look at five ways that you can give yourself the best chance of attracting women in bars:
1. Don’t stare.
Many men have a habit of staring at women, attempting to work up the courage to talk to them.
While those who stare at women think they are not being obvious, it is way more obvious than most men think. Girls can almost always feel our eyes baring down on them.
This is a turnoff because it shows we do not have the confidence to approach. When you do finally approach, you will likely be shot down for coming across as creepy, or lacking in confidence.
When you see a woman who interests you, don’t hesitate, just go for it! Worst-case scenario, there are plenty of other women out there!
2. Appear as if you are having fun.
At the end of the day, women just want to have fun. If you are hanging out with your friends, don’t just stand around looking as if you are all bored, waiting for something fun to happen.
Be seen laughing, dancing, and having a good time with your friends. Women are drawn towards this type of positive energy, and will want to become a part of it themselves.
3. Dress appropriately for the occasion.
If you have clothes that make you look like a cross between Pauly D and The Situation, burn them. Your style says a lot about who you are, and what you are all about.
Send signals that tell the right story about who you are underneath the clothes. Your wardrobe should reflect this.
4. Have a good wingman.
When one guy approaches an entire group, it is very difficult to entertain the entire group. The other friends will quickly become bored, jealous, or both, and take their friend away from you.
Having a good wingman is key to keeping the group entertained so that you can work your magic, and keep the friends happy as well.
5. Avoid small talk.
There are few forms of conversation at a bar that are lower than, “so what do you do?” or “where are you from?” Why in the world would this type of conversation excite a woman? All it does is scream, “I am trying to pick you up and can’t think of anything interesting to say.”
Before approaching a woman, have something interesting to talk about. Flirt a little bit. Comment on what is occurring in the room. Play a mind game. Whatever it is, avoid any forms of small talk until the conversation has had plenty of time to develop. Otherwise you will just come across as another boring guy, with nothing to offer.
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