Welcome to the Urban Dater's first official book club issue. Or something like that. Today, we're very happy to be reviewing a new eBook by one of the most well known dating/relationship bloggers out there, Nando Rodriguez. Dating Stuff: The Things About Dating You Ought To Know is hilariously and thoughtfully narrated by Nando, the “Social Media King” (proudly self proclaimed) behind Nandoism.com.
The book starts off with a bang (in the porno sense, kids) with Nando’s account of a particularly emotional breakup and how it sent him into a tail spin for some years later, which sets the tone for the rest of the book.
One thing I really appreciate about this book isn’t really the stories or anecdotes as much as the book demand for serious introspection from the reader to really look at themselves in the mirror and evaluate what they see before them. Nando does this by making the user answer some pretty tough questions. The kind of questions that really makes you think; what are you biggest problems? Are you dateable? Why? What resonates with me is that this book is honest; real honest. When you take a moment to take in what Nando is writing about, it’s a lot more than just making you an awesome and effective dater. It’s about Nando and HIS process and how HE dug himself out of an emotional pit, brought on by a lover’s deceit. He shares his personal insights in the form of “homework” for the reader. I dig that.
Something I feel that Nando could have done more with is to better highlight the social media tools available to daters to plan their dates, scheduling dates (balance more than one person they're dating) or tools that might help someone be a more social media savvy dater. I say this because of the platforms that Nando excels I'm sure he has some amazing ideas for those getting into the dating game. The dude is a Media Slut! He knows what's up!! However, it's only fair to say that the focus is on the reader, the person “getting back in the game,” not the tools of the trade necessarily. Readers will definitely value his Ten tips for creating an effective online dating profile as well as things to be aware of for that first date!
Nando's book definitely has wide-ranging appeal. I think his book will appeal most to those who are just getting back into dating, or the luckless denizens of online dating, as well as the seasoned successful pro, each will find nuggets of information that apply to them that they can apply to their dating/love life. If you're in a relationship, this book probably isn't for you… But you should buy a copy for your lonely friend that you're always trying to hook up with a friend. They'll buy you a beer, or at least vacate your couch so you can “get it on” in peace!