I saw this one on the lovely Simone Grant’s blog the other day and I tapped my lip and pondered the question. Then it hit me in the face like a feeble Dustin “Screech” Diamond punching out poor Horshack on Celebrity Boxing (still the greatest concept to hit television in my lifetime.) My girlfriend STILL has a Plenty of Fish Account!!! Oh the dreaded scandal!
Aaaand I don’t give a shit. Period. My girlfriend has told me she still has it and hasn’t bothered to close it. That’s fine and I believe her. But you know what? I still would give two shits of a rat’s cankle (sp?) if she DID check it. Really, I wouldn’t.
Why, you ask? Simple it’s something I call “trust.” My girlfriend could choke me out in my sleep, put a knife in my back or run me down with her SUV. To date she has done none of these things. She demonstrates that I can trust her every day just by being her and just by showing me she cares. I’m sorry, but some profile on a dating/hook-up site isn’t going to change that… Though, I secretly hope Amy Adams or Felicia Day messages her and want to hook up with her so I can watch. Shhh! don’t tell my girlfriend!
Really, the matter is inconsequential. Like I said, I trust her. That means I trust her with temptation and making the right decisions. If I can’t do that then why even bother being in a relationship in the first place? It makes no sense to me.
Should she close it? I don’t think it matters one way or the next. If this is “checklist” item for our relationship, then I think there’s other things we should be worried about…
When I was training to be a manager at my music store gig, my manager, at the time, said this to me: “Alex, the best thing you can do for a person is giving them the opportunity to fail. That’s how they know what they’ve got in em. That’s when they know who they are and how they grow.” He gave me this life-changing and sage advice because he saw that I was hording all the important tasks to be done and not letting people in on the action.
I guess my point is that you have to trust people in all sorts of situations, even in situations where great temptation exists. It’s then that you find out what that person is made of and if they really do love you; and in the end that’s all that I give a damn about.