Sometimes, as a man, I want to give the impression that I'm invincible; that I could take a punch from Kimbo Slice and laugh about it and tell all my friends about what happened. I know that I would curl up into a ball and whimper about the whole thing if Kimbo slugged me in the face. However, the fact remains that I want to not only feel that I'm independent, that I can take care of myself and I want others to know this, too, whether I admit it or not.
The other day I had my wisdom teeth ripped from my face. Really, it was a standard extraction not unlike any others. I made a decision before the procedure that I wasn't going to be put under for the procedure. I would be awake through it so that I could drive myself home.
Okay, let me rewind a few days. My gal had offered to take me to the dentist for this procedure, so that I'd have the requisite ride. Now, she lives about forty or so miles away and she's an instructor; this would require a bit more effort on her part to be present for my procedure. I declined. She offered to be with me the night that I had my teeth yanked and I still declined…
The truth, people, is that I did want her to be there for me, to take me to the dentist, to be there when was in pain and doped up with Dr. House's classic cocktail of piss and Vicodin.
So why didn't I take her up on her offers to be there for me? For one, I'm a selfish twat. Also, letting someone take care of me would, in my mind, damage that visage of invincibility. It would mean that I was weak, that I needed to be taken care of…
That's where women shine, though, I've realized. When we're down and out, our women get the chance to be Super Women, leaping tall buildings in a single bound. It is a sense of pride, knowing they are taking care of the men they adore. Women truly DO love doting over their men; taking care of them and doing the ‘little' things for them. It's truly selfish to deny a woman of these simple pleasures.
Armed with this ammunition and knowledge, I'm going to force those wisdom teeth back in my mouth and have the dentist kick them right out again so that I can do this the right way.
Guys, let your woman take care of you, don't be a tool.
Signup for Our Newsletter
Guys like you are the very reason that women don't take "no" for an answer. We know that deep down you do want us to help you, but if you tell us, we'll think you're wusses.
Well, you're right.
Keep saying no and keep making it look like we're forcing you to say yes. That's the way we like it.
The Bio and I used to have fights about this kinda crap all the time!! He'd not tell me major stuff was happening so that he could avoid the convo about WHY I couldn't help him out. Glad you realize our motives are clearly out of affection and the fact some woman enjoying wearing capes now and again. 🙂
Haha! It's funny how true that is. Women DO need to be needed. When we pretend we don't it kinda kicks that need into overdrive. =)
This is fantastic. I don't really think a man is a wuss for needing my help with things, that's really just human nature. There are just somethings we need help with. As long as a man can hold his own I don't see an issue. (And by hold his own I mean he isn't someone who whines that he can't do anything) Then again, I think any person, man or woman, should be able to hold their own.
dude. so on point. an alpha male needs an alpha female to allow his softer side to shine through. even superman wants to take off his cape at the end of the day.
great story.
jacks
One of the greatest life lesson for me was learning how to accept. Giving them is very easy and in actuality somewhat selfish.
I never really realized that I was stealing from someone when I took away their chance to give.
To my amazement, not only did this improve my relationships but it changed my finances. Had no idea what I was blocking by being afraid to receive.
@JessDowney – You are pretty much screwed on right! My gal pretty much echoed the same thing when I saw her the next day. It was a lesson learned.
Mike and Jack… You guys know what I'm talkin' aboot. (Yeah, I mispelled that on purpose. )
I'm glad you realized you were being a tool too! I get that guys want to continue to feel 'manly' but if you are that insistent about it then it comes off like you aren't capable of being vulnerable in front of us. Or that's how I feel anyway. A man who refuses to show any vulnerability can make me worry that he has issues totally opening up in a relationship. wow, maybe I just got too deep.
[…] the original post: Women Who Take Care of their Men | The Urban Dater. A Blog About … :advice, advice-for-men, dating, Dating Tips, dating-advice, dating-recipes, men, online-dating, […]
Social comments and analytics for this post…
This post was mentioned on Twitter by theurbandater: Let Her Treat You Right. http://bit.ly/c7EVyX #Dating #men #Relationships…