If a Man Gives You His Number… Another Take.

While out having drinks with some fellow bloggers: Zoe, Miss Melisa Mae, Cole Harmonson and the visiting Mike Masters, the topic of guys giving you their number came up.  I heaved a sigh and offered that I thought men that did this were contemptible, at best.  Zoe and Mike were quick to offer up their opinion on the issue and it was counter to my own opinion. It immediately pissed me off!  Okay, maybe it didn't. =)  Their opinion was that a guy was merely being respectful when doing this, they were trying to be a gentleman.

Anyway, Zoe and Mike offered that if a guy gives you his number and says “Well, here, take my number, if you feel like calling me or texting me just go ahead and do so.”  I considered this and they are right.  A guy who takes this approach WITH that delivery is gentlemanly.  However, that's not normally the experience I've seen.  Normally a guy will just push his number on the girl without really trying to engage her and find out anything about her.  This approach is the one I lament vehemently.

That said guys, if you want to offer a woman your number, go for it, just remember to be respectful, it's all in the approach.

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Alex is the founder and managing editor at the Urban Dater. Alex also runs: DigiSavvy, for which he is the co-founder and Principal. Alex has a lot on his mind. Will he ever get it right? If he does, he'll be sure to write.

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  1. I totally agree with everything in this follow up. Just last night i was chatting up a young lady at a local establishment. Her body language seemed to be positive but when the night was coming to a close it became slightly apprehensive. I offered to give her my number and told her exactly what these classy gents did, "take my number, if you would like to talk sometime feel free to give me a call". Her body language instantly changed when the pressure was taken off of her and i anticipate hearing from her soon. I agree with the author of the original article and what they had to say here as well. Just scrawling your number out on a piece of napkin and shoving it across the table is indeed bad form, however, giving a girl your number with the mention that you would like to hear from her clearly shows your interest in wanting to get to know her better.

  2. Yes!! Finally! Thanks for making my Monday. 🙂

    But, I agree, the delivery is everything. KineticAesthetics said it well: "giving a girl your num ber with the men tion that you would like to hear from her clearly shows your inter est in want ing to get to know her better."
    .-= Zoë´s last blog ..Man eater? =-.

  3. Well, Z, I figured you'd appreciate this post as one of the few voices representing the other side of this heatedly debated matter. =)

    If I had the kind of game that KineticAesthetics has, I'd be much more fly and pimp.

  4. I would not want a woman taking care of me who believes in sex outside of marriage. I like to be hugged,kissed, tickled and played with but no sex or I permanently shut the door. [email protected] is my email address. I’m by myself. I’m a 58 year old man never been married. I like birds ,nature ,lakes writing poetry, writing songs and I play my guitar at this church that I regularly attend.

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