Why You Need to Know About PPMIVT.

PPMIVT, also known as Premature Perceived Mutual Interest via Technology.  As much as I'd like to take credit for this most amazing acronym, I can't.  That goes to my friend, Monika.  What it means is that even the best technology can be made into a sad sorry sack of lame in no time flat.  That is, people who get too serious too quickly via text, email, et al.Fools Rush In. It's not a only bad movie that I was beaten and hauled to, starring the lovely Salma Hayek and that tosser from ‘Friends,' but it's also a time tested expression that can be applied to many situations, lending itself to a common meaning: Don't rush into things unnecessarily. That nugget of wisdom is right up there with tugging on Superman's cape, or giving Batman a “bike seat.” (I had the misfortune of finding out what a bike seat was recently… Thanks, babe)

I get it. I was like this, before the advent of texting and email on the go.  Really.  We meet someone, we get excited, in our mind we've fantasized months and years ahead in a non-existent relationship.  It's tough, but we get overwhelmed and then want to share these thoughts and feelings with the object of our affection!  It is SO easy.  There it is.  Laying on your bed, beneath your ‘Team Edward Poster' (Obviously, my poster is not Team Edward, but instead it's this guy) it's your phone.  “What's the big deal,” you think to yourself.  Before you know it you've rattled off a bunch of messages and emails professing intimate thoughts and desires and goals.  Sure, that's cool to get those things off your chest.  The person that you just met for coffee… once… yeah, they probably think you're a bit of a loon, a nutter, or complete whack job and never call you back again.

Before we had technology and before I grew some common sense, I might have left a kitty cat that, when squeezed, sounds like a duck on a gal's porch.  Cool, huh?  Turns out not so much.  Go figure.

It's easy to want to act when we feel something particularly strong or a “good idea” strikes us from no where.  Take time to think about these feelings or ideas.  Understand them and realize that sometimes these are impulses that we are prone to when meeting someone that we are excited about.  It's natural to act on impulse, but if it's someone new, I'd advise against it.

Tech just makes it so simple to act on impulse.  Remember, kids, Attraction isn't just a good idea, it's the law!

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Alex is the founder and managing editor at the Urban Dater. Alex also runs: DigiSavvy, for which he is the co-founder and Principal. Alex has a lot on his mind. Will he ever get it right? If he does, he'll be sure to write.

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  1. "A kitty cat that, when squeezed, sounds like a duck on a gal’s porch" Ha, where did you think of that one? Nice post.

  2. Alex, VERY well said. I had this happen a lot more at the beginning of my online dating experience, and, wow, those were some amazing emails that went on for pages and pages. Things always got a little derailed, though, and ironically, the people I communicated with the LEAST were the ones I connected with the most in person, the people I was surprisingly compatible with.

    Life is difficult when you're a former English Literature major, that's all I'm saying. Emails get really long. 😉

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