Have you ever chickened out of approaching women because you didn't feel good-looking enough? Do you feel doomed to a mediocre dating life due to your physical flaws? Maybe you feel too short for sex with a supermodel or too ugly to get a gorgeous girlfriend.
Well, don't worry.
Your success with women is based on far more than your physical appearance. Being handsome might get you few more Tinder matches. It might affect a woman’s initial reaction on approach, but it’s far from the most important attribute for building attraction.
Here are some traits that are far more attractive to women and if you cultivate these characteristics you’ll create an abundant dating life regardless of what you look like.
Be a boss, not a pretty boy
Imagine the sexiest supermodel you've seen. She wants a man who is charismatic, confident and fun. She wants a man who kicks ass in all areas of life. She wants a man completely at ease when speaking to her. She also wants a man who takes control of a conversation, who flirts and who moves things forward without making her feel uncomfortable or slutty. These skills are far more important than being good-looking, and they can all be learned with practice.
Sadly, many men don’t attempt to cultivate them because they believe that looks and money are all that matters.
Practice speaking to women
The simplest reason most men can't speak to stunning women?
They have not practiced.
You were probably useless the first time you took a free throw, had a job interview or jumped out of a plane. Well, chatting up women is exactly the same. The same way dribbling and slam-dunking can become simple, speaking to sexy women can, too.
Yet, most men barely practice because they don't think it would make any difference.
Take advice from the experts
There is so much fantastic FREE dating advice online—some of the world’s most successful lotharios have written exactly what to say to a woman, how to get her home and the mistakes that will make her lose attraction.
Most men still won’t read it—their egos won’t let them. They’re too embarrassed to admit they need advice. Or they tell themselves that the advice won’t work for them.
Dating experts aren’t cut from a different cloth. They do what anyone else could do. They learn the technique, apply the principles and practice, practice, practice.
What’s stopping you doing the same?
Learn to be charismatic
Good-looking men tend to grow up believing they're great with women. They're told they're attractive from an early age, so it's easy for them to believe it. This typically makes them naturally charismatic. They're not intimidated by anyone, and they don't think twice about how to take women to bed. It’s this behavior that’s bringing them the women.
Being charismatic might not come naturally to you, but that’s no reason not to practice.
The bottom line? Stop blaming your looks
There are heaps of handsome men who haven’t got great dating lives – because they’re not bossing it in these other areas.
Sure, they might score some simple layups that ugly guys don't get. After all, there's a small percentage of women who will sleep with a guy just because he's good-looking.
But overall, these lovely looking lads are losing out to men who have got the confidence, social skills and charisma craved by the cutest ladies.
So stop blaming your looks, and start speaking to loads of sexy women.
You'll be amazed at the improvements you make.
Joe Elvin is a dating/relationships blogger based in London. His book 'The Thrill Of The Chase', which explains how to truly thrive in singledom, was published in 2017. Download the first chapter for free at eepurl.com/c-cmGP.