I love technology every bit as much as you, you see, but I still have more love for technology. This statement is cold hard fact. As true as north as I can get; I love me the t3ch! The tools we use to make our lives easier have changed us drastically and in so many ways. As a business owner it’s allowed me to communicate with clients, face to face, 2000 miles away. That’s almost as impressive as the Sequoia I carry around in my pants that I call a penis! However, technology and dating is where I’m taking this little conversation today.
My girlfriend and I were talking about this topic the other day. What if people put their Androids, iPhones and Black Berrys away? Have we hindered ourselves in ways that we didn't foresee?
How has technology changed how we present ourselves? How has it changed how we interact with one another? This is a topic that I’ll be diving more in depth with contributions from other movers and shakers in the industry. For now, though, let me kick my mojo into low-gear.
I’ve noticed that technology has made uncomfortable situations a snap! For instance, breaking up with people is a breeze! I can tell you that I’ve broken up with three different women, at the same time, with a mass text. Even our own TaylorCast broke up with dudes via text; some of these dudes not just once, but twice! When we use technology to avoid confrontation, we are taking out a very human element to interpersonal communication and we’re being pretty damn disrespectful to the person on the receiving end of this text/email based send-off. You see, we miss an opportunity to grow; we don’t have to deal with emotional tumult, we don’t have to feel uncomfortable, we don’t have to deal with it at all. I think that disconnect from human nature hinders us in our future dealings with people on a deep personal level in some way.
The ability to share and consume information from anywhere at any time has also had a profound effect on dating. I’ve been on dates where I picked a bogus venue. Luckily my phone, with Yelp, guided my date and I to a great time at nearby venues. However, whatever happened to adventure, hmm? Sure, there are certain parts of any town or city that aren’t, er, wise to explore, if we learned nothing about Boyle Heights, in ‘Training Day.’
Even in our dating profiles we can share as much or as little as possible and people make judgments on us without even engaging us. What happened to discovery and being surprised? Heck, I might be just about the worst speller on the face of the planet, but you wouldn’t know it because of spell check! Which, by the way, what is up with those people that don’t bother with it when trying to sell themselves online or anywhere, for that matter?
Technology does a lot of great things, but I think it has also turned us away from having deeper connections with people that we meet online in some ways.
I’m not anti-tech. Hell, I found my girlfriend on Plenty of Fish, of all places. It’s just an interesting topic to think about. What if we blacked out the more common tools of dating today? I wonder. Maybe that would be a good practice for those of us who lean on tech a little too much; get out there and meet people organically, just by getting out there and striking up a conversation. Who knows what could happen. It’s just a thought from a tool of a blogger.
What do you guys think? Do you rely too much on tech to handle your dating life? How has technology made your personal life better or worse? Let us know in the comments below!