It is better to have loved than to not ever loved at all… BUT It is better to have escaped a doomed relationship than to have tried one after all.

This is an open letter addressed to those who have been rejected by someone who was “not ready for a relationship.” Listen. It Is them, but it Is also You. They are often not ready, but mostly, they are not ready for someone like you. And, usually, it has nothing to do with love. Two people in love inevitably at times, just can’t be together.

You Caught Me at a Bad Time…

Because I just got out of a relationship. I’m still dealing with my hurt past. My intimacy issues. Life sucks now. I’m struggling with bills. I want to go to school. I want to settle in my career first.  My health needs to be checked. I don’t want any responsibility. Work’s hell. I like my freedom. I want to travel. My family drives me crazy. I still have a lot to figure out. I still don’t know who I am and what I want in life.

You’re Incompatible…

We can’t communicate. Effectively. Someone’s too controlling. Too needy. Distant. Too closed off. We have too many cultural/religious/political/background differences. What do we have in common? We don’t share the same big life goals on career, passions, values, finances, children, love, etc.

You Want Something Else…

I want a stable, companionate love. You want a passionate, ever-consuming love. Or vice versa. You’re too practical. You’re too dramatic. I want to skip the friendship. You want to build it. You want everyday rapport. I want plenty of space. I want to be touched in a certain way. You want to be spoken to in a certain way. I don’t want what you want. You don’t want what I want.

You Don’t Need/Want Me The Way I Do…

Co-dependent. Casual. Marriage. Open Relationship.

You Don’t Match…

In Life Goals and Life Quality. Passion. For oneself, others, and life.

You’re Way Ahead of Me…

You’re moving too fast.

You Are Ahead Me…

I’m moving too slow.

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Posted by Sarah Suhaimi

Sarah Suhaimi practices 명음 by day and the art of dark chocolate bar swindling by night. She is currently working closely with a local Pittsburgh non-profit that serves sex-trafficked victims, Living in Liberty, as a volunteer and grant proposal writer. She founded the Southeast Asian Student Alliance (SEASA) at her university, and, as well, the "Offer Islam Campaign." Her works vary from prose to poetry to articles. Her published works include, ‘The Home of an Immigrant’s Daughter’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2012 Dublin Biennial, Dublin, Ireland and ‘Hidden Beauty Reveals Itself (Intellect Vs Instinct)’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2011 Florence Biennale VIII, Florence, Italy.

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