21 Things I’ve Learned from My Relationship

Being “off-the-market” for two years now has lent me some insight into my current relationship; certainly that's obvious. Recently I've talked with my partner on the Urban Dater, Taylor, about our relationships and I've learned some things, so I decided to put a few of them down on the ol' blog here. 

1. The hardest job you'll ever work on is your relationship. Even when there's a vacation, there really is NO vacation. You have to keep working at it.
2. Relationships are like any potted plant, with out attention and nutrition, they'll die.
3. Know when to keep your effing mouth shut.
4. Sometimes your partner doesn't want you to “fix” them; they just want time to be “broken.”
5. It's important to put effort into getting to know your significant other's friends and family.
6. At the end of the day, who gives a shit if they like you or not? If you work on #5, they'll like you, or they won't. It's their problem, not yours.
7. Saying “I'm wrong” never gets easier
8. The ladies still think I'm sexy…
9. Oh and there are different levels of flirtation. Go with the one that your significant other approves of… This may take some experimentation, and a punch to the stomach until you find the level that works best for you.
10. Effort is everything
11. Say “I love  you.”
12. Sometimes the best part of my relationship is when I wake up at 2 or 3am and I see the person I love right next to me… Snoring or drooling and I know that she's with ME. She gets me and has my back. I still can't get over that…
13. Coming home means something different to me now… And that's awesome.
14. Relationships aren't easy; they require work…
15. Guess what? So does passion!
16. You're doing better than some couples. Cool.
17. Other couples are doing better than you. Bummer.
18. Don't compare yourselves to other couples, you jackasses!
19. Count before you say something stupid. This often helps you say stupid things less stupidly.
20. The grass is always, always, always greener… Just is. So be happy where you're at. You're fine. Get over it.
21. Actions still don't lie in a relationship. That becomes even more important as the years pile on.

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Alex is the founder and managing editor at the Urban Dater. Alex also runs: DigiSavvy, for which he is the co-founder and Principal. Alex has a lot on his mind. Will he ever get it right? If he does, he'll be sure to write.

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