So you’ve got a first date lined up with that cute girl you met online or at the supermarket. We’ve all been there people! Today I am going to lay out some of my first date rules and the mindset I approach the first date with.
1. The Best Expectation is to Have NO EXPECTATION!
I can’t stress this point enough. At the point I met my fiancé, I was dating up a storm and I had perfected my approach to dating. When we were about to go out on our first date I had absolutely no expectation and just approached it as anything I do during my day whether it’s eating, sleeping or working out. It was no big deal, I’m just going to meet a person and see if we have chemistry. Notice my language. I said chemistry, not if “she was hot”. I’m mature enough to know what I want in life and I wasn’t confused like a lot of daters are out there.
I’m a huge fan of the Big Bang Theory. There’s the episode where Howard is setup on a blind date with his current wife in the show Bernadette. Prior to meeting Bernadette Howard pesters Penny with questions about Bernadette who he described before their encounter as “his future wife”. This is the wrong approach to take with dating. See if you have no expectation going in and things don’t work out, you won’t be disappointed.
2. First Date are Supposed to be FUN!
I don’t understand why Men take women out on dinner dates. They are expensive and awkward. You’re going to go to an expensive restaurant with a person who you’ve never met or barely know and spend a lot of money on a date where you will have forced conversation and watch each other chew food? The best first dates are things like bowling, karaoke, going to a cool local coffee shop, walking along Whyte Ave and taking in the sites, etc. Good dates don’t need to be expensive dates.
3. Don’t discuss Ex’s, Past Relationships or Your Problems
I work with lots of people who are negative and can’t see the positive in life. I hate being around negative people and other people are much the same. The conversation should be light and talk about your interests and passions in life. You also want to learn about the other person, where they grew up, their hobbies, etc. Great conversation involves both parties participating, not just one person running the show.
4. Be Chivalrious and Warm
I always make it a point to hug a girl on a first date when I see her. It gives women a feeling that you are a warm guy. I once went on a date with a girl who shook my hand. My brother also has stories about this too. The minute a girl shakes my hand I get immediately turned off because I know this is not a warm person. The first impression is always the most important thing on a first date. When I date someone I don’t want to feel like I am having a business meeting. Also on the date make sure you open doors for her, be curteous to the people around you. It shows that you have manners, unlike a lot of people who live in Edmonton.
5. Be on Time
I can't stress this enough. You need to be on time to show you are dependable and a person of your word. I always show up five minutes early.
That concludes are lecture for today. Follow me on twitter @edmontondating and fire me off an email at [email protected] if you need help with your online dating life.
I used to be terrible with women until I received coaching from several great mentors out there who taught me to unleash my inner alpha male and be the type of man that attracts women and not chases them. My area of expertise is online dating, but I also provide advice on the right types of dates to take women on and provide men with the proper mindset to approach dating.