It goes without saying that a new relationship is like putting on warm underwear, fresh out of the dryer. You’re excited, the other person’s excited, your friends reel from your over bearing in-your-face make out exchanges.
When things are going well, it’s easy to take things easy and begin taking things for granted. Suddenly the amazing oral you’ve been getting is gone! Next, your partner is no longer making you breakfast before shipping you out to your job. It could be dark times in the no so distant future, people. What’s happy go lucky person to do?
The “newness” of a relationship has an expiration date, when all the other exciting things have fallen away and the reality of the relationship and the work it represents rears its ugly head. It’s a fact. Generally, it’s not a sudden transition, from new to ugh, but a slow seemingly seamless transition.
My girlfriend (yes, I do know what that term means, Miguel) and I are both recently anointed Mac Book owners. There was much fun to be had having Mac dates and such, she’d come over and play her bejeweled and I’d madly tap away at my keyboard looking at porn and Star Wars Kid Mods. (However, if you tell this to said girlfriend I will punch you in the urethra, even if you don’t have one. I’m an improviser that way.) While this is all good fun, doing it too often isn’t. Things get boring. We became stale.
How did we break this chain of computer happy lameness?
Some time ago I had mentioned a hike that I’d wanted to do. The hike was put off because of the fact I recently had my wisdom teeth pulled and since then had been more an after though than a call to action. Well, Lucy, we’ll call her, suggested that we should do that hike a couple days before we were to hang out again… Ding ding ding! PERFECT! The hike kicked our ass. It really did! But we both had such an amazing time and really broke things up, outside of our routine.
Another thing that we’ve come up with is simply taking a “Ferris Beuller Day Off.” We just take a day off work and do whatever we feel like. We don’t really have a plan and that’s fine. Spending time together really is the goal here.
I guess all I’m really saying is that it’s not hard to keep a relationship well-oiled. Having sex in new places is pretty awesome, but simplicity is a thing of beauty. Best of all is that it really is easy. Like your mom. That’s for my girl, Leslie.