Cole's (aka @premiddleage) 38 Mitzvahs Project

Cole Harmonson Premiddle Age
Cole Harmson

I adore Cole Harmonson (@premiddleage) over at She's a fun gal and usually full of good advice and stories from a life spanning nearly f-f-f-orty years. 😉 I haven't known her long, but she was one of the first Tweeps I met off Twitter and she's been kind enough to grace me with her presence on more than one occasion.

To celebrate her incremental advance toward “pre-middle age” Cole is asking for a little help from her friends. Instead of gifts she'd like to see people give the gift of kindness. 38 acts of kindness to be precise! That said, I'm going to post the project details below.

Rather than getting presents, I’m requesting and challenging you to perform ONE MITZVAH, one act of kindness, by June 16 in honor of my birthday. My goal is for 38 acts of kindness to be performed. Really, I’m hoping for many more but I like themes. (I’m an event planner.)

Some things people did last year for our project:
Bought a homeless woman breakfast. Put an extra special snack in their kids lunch. Babysat for a couple so they could go out. Gave money to a charity. Bought coffee at Starbucks for strangers. Paid an elderly couples dinner tab anonymously. Forgave. Asked forgiveness.

Join me? Forward this link to your friends? Giving everyday is beautiful but if you’d give for my birthday that would really bless me and bless someone else and probably bless you, too.  Share and we’ll post what happens from Twitter, My Blog and Facebook.

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  1. This is absolutely wonderful and an awesome idea to ask that for your birthday people perform acts of kindness towards others, and I love how the number of acts corresponds with the new age. Great! I will be sure to forward this to my friends and family. Thank you very much for this!

  2. Gal? Usually full of good advice? And, what…full of crap the rest of the time? *smile

    I heart you with a big ole crush UD and cannot wait to see you! Thanks for posting this. We've had an outpouring of generosity and, I hope, an awakening that birthdays can be about something more than…SELF.

    Much love to all – Cole

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