Stemmy’s Romantic Tweets

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So the Urban Dater has a Twitter Follower, @stemmy55. He's among our most cherished followers, too. I fell that over the last year or so I've really been able to connect with him and what motivates him... https://twitter.com/stemmy55/status/400287045836214273 and https://twitter.com/stemmy55/status/400649235189600256 More than that, Stemmy has … [Read more...]

Increasing Your Attraction Score Online

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"Damn. Look at the body on that girl. She is unreal man. I'd kill for one night with that. She's at least a 9. Maybe even a 10..." We've all had these types of conversations with friends right? We're men. Sometimes we revert back to our 12 year old hormonal school boy alter egos when we see a smoking hot woman, pick apart their looks, and rate them. Its … [Read more...]

7 of the Best and Most Steamy Escort Novels

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Thanks to the now iconic Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, the erotic novel has never been more popular. The books may not have been about escorts, but the trilogy had a profound effect on erotica as a whole, with authors falling over themselves to pen a sexy bestseller. So what better profession to write about than escorts? If you're itching to get your hands … [Read more...]

When it’s Men vs. Women, Everybody Loses

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How many relationships have broken down because of the inability for men and women to see each other as people? “The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was.” Rumi. After 20 years we failed. I had expectations of what a man should be, his expectations was of someone who would stay. We dreamed of … [Read more...]

Perspective is Everything.

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My friends were there laughing. I'd just told them how I'd had a threesome with a cute woman and her chihuahua (not really, but the chihuahua really makes for a good punchline) and they were rolling. "Really!!?" they asked.  I went on to tell a couple of other woeful dating stories. Again, to more laughs. My friend, Dee, rolled her eyes as her best friend … [Read more...]

The L.A. Gal & The Swinging Denver Executive

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While I'm no serial dater, I've had my fair share of time in the war of the roses 'war room'. Being a single 30-something woman living in Los Angeles is a description of war in itself. Being born and raised in the unforgiving city of 'Lost Angels', I have a natural resistance to crazies and BSers but for some reason I'm never quite ready for the crazy types … [Read more...]

Ask the Urban Dater: Shit or Get Off the Pot Edition

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Alright, so here goes... a guy and myself (a girl) started off as friends with benefits. It took forever for us to actually get to the point of us hooking up, and it all started by a lot of texting. Which made it all feel like the start of a relationship, we've only had sex once, but we still do other stuff all the time. Then we decided to end things because … [Read more...]