While dating can sometimes feel a bit intimidating for introverts and extroverts alike, dating for introverted men can present a unique set of challenges that extroverted men may not experience, such as making small talk or initiating touch. Since getting to know a woman is much more nuanced than finding out her favorite movie or coffee order, today we will share five of our best tips for dating for introverted men.
1. Be true to yourself and what you're looking for
The best dating advice anyone will give introverts and extroverts alike is to be true to yourself and what you're looking for. Pretending to be someone you're not will attract the wrong type of person. For example, if you would not consider yourself outgoing, pretending to act that way while meeting women would deplete your social battery and may attract someone with a different energy than you. Ultimately, both of you may not be compatible due to these differences, and time would have been wasted on both sides.
When meeting women, focus on emphasizing your best qualities. Perhaps you're very chivalrous, and this is a trait you pride yourself in. You can show your chivalry by opening doors for women when you're out and about or offering to help her load grocery bags into her car. Being true to yourself will help you attract the right kind of woman for you. You will feel good knowing that you are presenting your authentic self, and she will trust that your intentions are in the right place because you didn't pretend to be someone you're not simply to get her attention.
2. Communicate what your love language is
Have you ever heard of a love language? There are five of them: physical touch, acts of service, words of affirmation, gift-giving, and quality time. We all have different love languages, and the good news is that discovering your love language will help you determine what you value in a relationship so that you can communicate that need to your future partner. If your love language is words of affirmation, you may need a bit more reassurance or verbal communication than someone whose love language is acts of service. By telling dating prospects or future partners what you need out of a relationship, you will know immediately if you are compatible.
3. Determine what your non-negotiable values are
You are not willing to compromise on a non-negotiable value with someone in a relationship. These values vary from person to person and oftentimes involve deeper topics such as religion, children, and finances. However, some non-negotiable values can be less serious yet still important enough to you to make them non-negotiable. Perhaps you have a dog who you consider to be your best friend. A non-negotiable for you might be that she has to be a dog person. Determining what to add to your non-negotiable list will help you find the right woman. Remember to be upfront about what you're looking for to increase your chances of dating a woman who is a great match for you!
4. Have open body language and a well-groomed appearance
As an introverted man, you may feel a bit apprehensive about approaching women and striking up a conversation. If this sounds like you, strive to maintain an approachable appearance instead. A man who is approachable displays open body language. Examples of open body language are scanning the room with a pleasant look, making eye contact with those you're conversing with, and not having your face buried in your phone or computer. An approachable man also has a well-groomed appearance. In order to envision this better, put yourself in a woman's shoes. Would you want to be approached by someone who looks like they haven't showered in days, wearing a dirty sweatsuit with a five-o'clock shadow? Probably not! When you're out with friends or grocery shopping for the week ahead, take a moment to put some effort into your appearance. A woman is much more likely to approach a man who is wearing a nice outfit with a clean-shaven face.
5. Find something you share in common and suggest a date
When you're dating, making connections with women is important to advance your relationships from friendship to a deeper level. When you are getting to know a woman, try to find something you share in common. Perhaps you love to cook. Everyone enjoys food, right? Invite her over to your place with the promise of cooking her a delicious meal. Have you ever heard of the saying, “The way to a man's heart is through his stomach”? The same rings true for women. If you cook a woman a delicious meal, we can nearly guarantee she'll be open to a second date!
Conclusion to Dating for introverted men
Navigating the dating world as an introverted man can understandably feel a bit intimidating. Remember to display open body language and good communication skills while also staying true to yourself and what you're looking for in a woman. As long as you showcase your authentic self, you'll attract the right woman for you!
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