It's extremely difficult to know whether you've found the person that will be there with you for the rest of your life. She's not a one time fling; she's not one of the questionable London escorts you found while backpacking through Europe right out of College. There are some signs she's the one that can help you determine if there's a deep connection and whether she feels the same.
She's Someone Special
I've always felt the saying was true that: “When you know, you know. You know if your gal is someone special. She's not a gal you make cry all the time; you're there for her, always and not just because you want a cheap thrill. She's someone special.
You're Vulnerable With Her
When you're able to share your thoughts and moments of weakness with her, it means you have a deep level of trust in her and the relationship. You know that she wouldn't hurt you with any of the information you reveal. That's a trust that can be the foundation for a long-lasting loving commitment.
She Likes the Man That You Are Right Now
Basically, she doesn't want to change the essence of who you are. She might not love all your quirky habits, like how you love to eat peanut butter out of the jar with a fork, but she wouldn't change you for anything in the world. She isn't trying to work on you like a pet project, or turn you into another man.
The Future Includes Her
You might not be planning babies and a white picket fence yet, but if you can imagine a happy life with her then that's a sure sign she's the one. If your five-year plan includes some milestones with her at your side, that's a good indication that she's becoming a serious part of your life.
Comfort Levels are High
You feel comfortable with yourself when she's around. You're not censoring your words or putting on a false front with her. You can sit together reading a book or being completely silent, and it's not awkward or uncomfortable. You don't have to entertain her constantly with witty banter or plan activities to fill the uncomfortable spaces. One of the signs shes the one is that two of you can be comfortable together doing just about anything.
Jealousy is Low
Jealousy levels are one of the signs she's the one. She doesn't mind if you go hang out with friends since she also has a life of her own. Everyone has hobbies and outside interests, and she doesn't try to be the center of your universe every minute of every day. She's secure in the relationship and in herself, so she doesn't display huge amounts of jealousy over trivial situations.
If you have these signs in your relationship, you're well on your way to having a person who you can spend your life with and a relationship that stands the test of time.