Dating Men to Discover Your Type

Dating is so much fun, when you take the whole “Is he the one” thing out of it.  As women, we have the advantage, don’t we?  It’s the men that have to do most of the work.

The man has to pick the location and impress us with his creative ideas.  He has to pay, and then when it’s all said and done, he has to call us to make sure we got in the house safely.  All we have to do as women is look cute and have fun!  Who wouldn’t want to do that?

So, you may be inspired to date all the men who approach you to figure out what it is you want. 

Older men.  Younger men.  Men from work.  Men you’re introduced to.  Men of different races and cultures.  Men you’re not attracted to.  Men who don’t make the money you make.

Men … Men… Men…

But after a while, with all those choices, you may still be confused about who your type is.   So, here are some things to think about as you’re searching for what it is you want in a man.

1. One person can’t represent a group of people – Just because you didn’t connect with the “20-years-your-senior” man you dated doesn’t mean you shouldn’t date men that are older.  Each person is unique.  Although there are some similarities, you can only be certain that you do or do not like one person at a time.
2. Only go out with men you like – Dating a man you’re not interested in is a waste of time – both for you and for him.  If you’re not interested in him before you go out, you probably won’t be interested in him after you go out.
3. When you’re done, journal what you want – After you’ve done your “Tour de France” and dated different men, sit down and journal what you want in a relationship, not just in a man.   It could be friendship, passion, security, desire, adventure, or all of the above.  But once you get clear on what you want, you’ll have an easier time recognizing when you’re with a man you can date more.

Dating is a lot of fun, especially when you get to go for free.  But when you’re ready for something more, take all of your dating research and get in tune with what will make you happy.

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Christine Pembleton