Not having much luck with women lately? Perhaps it’s them, or maybe it’s you. Take it from me, I’ve been on many many dates. I know what makes a good date and what makes a bad date. A good date is one that leaves you feeling positive and like it wasn’t a waste of time. A good date will make you feel like you want to see this person again. What’s a bad date? Well, bad dates make you want to run for the hills. They make you not want to see this person again. Let’s face it, bad dates make for GREAT stories … but do you really want to be that guy? You know the one, the disaster date everyone hears about the next day.
Women aren’t as complicated as you might think, no, really, they’re not. You just think they are because you’re not projecting the right image to keep them interested. You heard me … it’s probably YOUR fault. Why is it your fault? Well, I’m going to give it to you straight (only because I like you) … it’s your fault if you do any of these sure-fire ways to scare a woman off …
1. Look and Smell Like a Bum
So you’re going on a date. How do you prepare? Do you shower? Do you put on deodorant? Do you brush your teeth? Do you clean your nose and ears? How about brushing your hair? Do you put on a nice, neat, clean outfit? Yes, sounds basic doesn’t it? But basic is best. These should be fundamental actions to your daily routine, not just dating. Women like men who take care of themselves. No one wants a man who looks like a bum and, even worse, smells like one!! You would be surprised how many men that approach me and how many men who meet me for dates that don’t meet the MINIMUM hygiene requirements. To me, that’s an automatic turn off. C’mon guys you will definitely scare a woman off if you look like a bum. Why? Because in a woman’s mind if you can’t take care of basic things like personal hygiene then you can’t take care of more important things.
2. Coming On Too Strong or Creepy
This should be a no brainer. No woman wants to be devoured. Yes, we love when a man is attracted to us and when he tells us that he is. But, there’s a good way of telling a woman she’s beautiful and a bad way. I have had a guy who pulled out their penis in public to show me how turned on I made him. EW! What on earth made him think I would like that? I’ve had guys follow me around. I’ve also had guys who stare at me during the date. Just stare with their eyes bulging. Creepy!! I’ve also had guys not even listen to what I’m saying and all they want is, and I quote, for me to help them “get their rocks off”. Umm no thanks. I’ve recently met someone who all he does is send me message after message about how gorgeous I am and how much he likes me and how smart I am, and he’s already planning our future together. Umm no. Coming on too strong or creepy will definitely scare a woman off. Why? Because a woman likes a guy who’s attentive and attracted to her but who also knows how to play it cool and give it out in smaller doses, not all at once.
3. Checking Out Other Women
OK guys, what on earth would make you think that checking out other women while you’re on a date is a good thing? Seriously? Even if your date isn’t quite what you’d hoped you still need to respect the person you’re with. If you’re not interested in them then end the date. Do you really think the woman that you checked out would want to go out with you if you just disrespected the woman you were with? Not likely. Checking out other women will definitely scare a woman off and everyone around her. Why? Because women like to be the centre of your attention, we know that you will notice other woman but we don’t like it when you make it obvious.
4. Bad Conversation
Do you have a one track mind? Not only sexually, but do you have limited topics that you know about or like to talk about? This includes video games, geeky things, hipster things, extremist religious and political thought. How about talking about your bitch of an ex? What about talking ALL about yourself and what a great catch you are? How about not even engaging your date in your conversation and not letting her get a word in edgewise? FAIL! I’ve certainly had some BORING dates with guys who kept going on and on about uninteresting topics, even when I tried to be engaged, or even tried to change the subject it didn’t work. You need to try and be a good conversationalist about lots of random topics and current events to appear interesting. Being a bad conversationalist will no doubt scare a woman off. Why? Because women like a man who is interesting, who keeps her engaged and who is interested in what she has to say.
5. Being Rude
How could you be rude? Well, do you use your mobile phone while on your date? Do you fail to use the basic common courtesies like saying please and thank you to your date and everyone else, like serving staff, etc.? Do you mock your date’s ideas and make fun of them? Do you arrive late for your date? You would be surprised how many times I’ve sat there speechless on a date because he was so arrogant and rude to me and everyone around him. No thanks! People can tolerate only so much. We all slip up sometimes, but being inherently rude shows a lack of character, makes you undesirable to others and is a sure-fire way to scare a woman off. Why? Because people want to be treated with respect and nobody likes to be treated rudely. Plain. Simple.
So there! Scare any women lately? Yes? Well, now that you know what to do about it. Fix it! You have the tools to do it. It’s common sense but unfortunately not so common to everyone. Make a woman feel special by making an effort with her, by listening to her and by putting your best foot forward. It may not work every time, but trust me, it will work more often than not.
Ladies, would you add to or remove anything from the list?
Happy Dating!
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There is more to it than just that ! Women (or should I say girls, b/c there is a difference) always DEMAND ( yes I said “demand”) to spoiled and treated like a queen, to include paying for EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME regardless of the cost . This is due to their overinflated egos that have been developed by desperate men who are willing to do anything if there’s even remote chance that they will have sex.As a result , men like me who know better go without. It’s called being too smart for one’s own good.Since the majority of females share this attitude, I am more than happy to remain single and happy than miserable with the wrong woman.
Frank, you sound like you’ve been burned. A lot. I disagree that women are spoiled and feel that they deserve to be paid-for all the time. Just not true. However, I do think that men are expected to pay because it’s the nice thing to do. That’s not right, but that’s how it is.
But I think you’re also missing the point here. There’s a lot of shit men do to make women go running for the hills; it’s really less to do with paying money than it is to not be fucking creepy.
Ha ha I think frank has a point! Sorry, but AYI has been successful for me, would never wast time dating a western woman. They give to little. They expect to much. Look at the list written above, it definitely wasn’t written by a man.
Men and women are as much different as they are alike, Mick. That said, we men are simple creatures: Titties, Sex, Booze and Food; that’s all most men need. Women are more emotional creatures. And that list is actually not at all bad. The author simply doesn’t want someone she can’t relate to in convesation; she doesn’t want someone who is creepy, or smells bad and is respectful. That’s about as basic as one could make it.
You’re right, it IS very basic;which is why I said there is much more to it. If a man that does these things ,then no wonder why he has trouble dating. You really have to get into the psyche of a female.Many females try to equate dollar amount with how much a man cares for her which is wrong.Also, many see sex with them as a “gift” to be given if he deserves it; hence the term ” getting lucky”, which I can’t stand. This train of thought INFURIATES ME. Girls who were raised to be tomboys are usually the best people because their masculine and feminine sides are more balanced and even lean toward the masculine side. This is due to a stronger father figure who did not spoil his daughter.
I still feel like this is an over-generalization, Frank. I’m not sure what women you’re meeting or how you’re meeting them, apparently something needs to change in approach.
I’ve met women who were shallow, as what you’re describing, but that’s not been anywhere near the majority.
That said, women do want to feel ‘secure’ with the man that’s courting them; that’s to be expected, men want to feel secure in their relationship as well. Security takes on many forms: Emotional, Health and Financial.
So if a woman doesn’t want to be with a guy because he doesn’t make a good partner, from a financial standpoint, then what’s the problem? Ultimately, when people get married they “go into business” together and each person should be able to hold up their end of “the bargain.” If that means one takes care of the home and the other brings home the bacon, fine. If both are expected to bring home their adequate share financially, fine. What you’re talking about are, I feel, ‘gold diggers.’
Does such a mentality really dominate the female population? Is that what you’re really saying? Curious.
Yes this mentality does dominate the female population. It’s the ” what’s in it for me ? ” mentality. Marriage is NOT a business and should not be seen as such.So many women share your viewpoint on marriage which is one of the reasons why I don’t believe in marriage. Another reason is being LEGALLY BOUND to another human being is not natural. Commitment and marriage are not the same thing. Two people can verbally agree to commit to each other without a contract. Marriage only benefits the female: should the relationship fail, she gets half or sometimes everything.In a committed but not married relationship,both partners have an open door out of the relationship. When you have this open door, if there is a serious argument, one can take time off away from the other and come back when they ready to resolve the issue. This may happen several times and is healthy. Also, when you know that your partner can leave at any moment, you appreciate them much more. Not so in a marriage. When there is a serious argument, there is nowhere to go, you have to stew in the heat and funk of it even when you aren’t in the argument b/c the partner is there in front of you.women like the idea of marriage b/c it makes them feel secure knowing that ” he’ll be back”. If you are secure in being alone,then one wouldn’t be so eager to get married.
Ok, this isn’t as bad as I had thought. I would agree with these points, though.
I think most men are more emotional creatures than they would like to admit. Have you seen them at a game when their favorite team loses? LOL. We all want love. It’s time that we stop lying to ourselves and start worrying about each other and not just number one.