Cards, a dozen roses, jewelry, chocolate, gourmet dinners–these are all things that men are generally told they need to shell out for their significant others on Valentine’s Day…but do women really expect that?
A new survey, released by international online dating site AnastasiaDate, revealed some good information about Americans’ attitudes and perspectives toward dating and relationships this Valentine’s Day. The findings show that women care more about guys who are thoughtful, respectful, and attentive over those who can offer them material objects and fancy dinners.
As this Valentine’s Day quickly approaches (tomorrow!), here are three things that men can (and should) do to ensure a romantic evening on love’s big day:
- Flattery will get you everywhere.
According to the survey, 54 percent of female respondents think that men should always get them a Valentine’s Day card filled with thoughtful words and meaningful messages. What does that mean? Don’t just buy a card and sign it! Write a loving note that means something to both you and her, and shows that you took the time to think about it.
- Treat her like gold, and you’re in the money.
A majority (70 percent) of female respondents think that if their date treats them with care and respect, they’re nearly guaranteed to have sex at the end of the night. Valentine’s Day is the best time to show just how caring, compassionate, respectful, and chivalrous you can be. In the end, it will pay off in a big way for both of you.
- Paying attention pays dividends…in bed.
Conversation is the key to a successful date, so make sure that you are paying attention to your significant other and showing interest in what they are saying. Hogging the conversation or shifting the focus back to you can be quite a turn-off.
At the same time, here are three things that you should avoid on Valentine’s Day:
- Smell bad? You’re sleeping alone.
It may seem obvious, but some men forget to go the extra mile when getting ready for a romantic evening, and 49 percent of female respondents think that bad hygiene is the biggest mood killer. So guys, pick up some aftershave, iron your shirt, and don’t forget to floss!
- Forget her name, and you’ll never get lucky.
Nothing tells your date that you aren’t paying attention more than calling her by the wrong name (or the name of an ex-girlfriend). This may seem surprising, but it’s a common occurrence that women experience while dating. Of those surveyed, 33 percent said that being called the wrong name on a date is the easiest way to ruin the mood – and ensure that the guy goes home by himself.
- Radar neck will guarantee a lonely night.
This goes without saying, but unfortunately many men need to be reminded of this: When out on a date, keep your eyes on her and off other women! Almost a quarter (24 percent) of female respondents said that if they catch their dates checking out other women, sex is out of the question.
Bottom line for this year’s Valentine’s Day: don’t forget to put in a little extra effort, make your date feel like the center of your attention and think of a few thoughtful words to let her know just how much you care. Whether it’s your first date or your 50th, take the time to plan out the perfect night for you and your significant other – and know that you don’t have to break the bank to make it happen.