For most people with a healthy perspective on dating and relationships, dating is ultimately about 1 thing; forging a lasting and loving, long term relationship. Now it’s not that you can’t and shouldn’t enjoy dating, but being able to strengthen your relationships and make them last longer will increase your chances of building that ever-lasting bond which is (presumably) what we are all aiming for.
Fortunately, being better at being in a relationship is pretty simple on paper; if you have the desire and commitment to do it. Here are 4 simple ideas to consider:
Stop Silly Arguments:
Couples can argue about all sorts of silly things, some more so than others. But silly arguments can wear you down, especially if they happen frequently. Learning to understand your partners point of view (even if you don’t fully agree with it) will go a long way here.
Also important is the ability to apologise. Everyone is wrong from time to time and being defensive is a sure way to frustrate your partner and cause unnecessary arguing. If you have the maturity to apologise and admit fault the gesture will likely be returned and the two of you will be able to talk and be much more open with one another.
Get Over Your Jealousy:
Jealousy is another great way to cause arguments, friction and inequality in a relationship and whether you are the jealous one or your partner is, it is a problem which needs to be looked at.
Jealousy ultimately comes down to trust and if you trust one another completely there is no reason to be jealous. So if Jealousy does occur you should really consider what is causing it – if you can’t trust your partner why not? Is it you, or something they have done, and can you get over it?
Learn To Talk:
This is what it all comes down to really. A strong relationship is one where both partners are willing and able to talk about their problems. Any time you hide anything from your partner you pull yourselves apart a little.
Equally though, you need to be approachable. If you are the defensive type and if your partner is afraid to talk to you for fear of being shouted at he/she will not be able to communicate about your relationship – this can cause a loss of trust and weaken your bonds, as well as concealing problems which could have been fixed.
Finally; above all else, relationships take work. It shouldn’t have to be hard work, and it should be work that you want to put in. Remember to put in the work to spend time together, talk to each other and be open about how you feel.
If you can’t be bothered to put in the work, or if it feels like too much of a chore you probably need to ask yourself where your motivation has gone and why..?