21 Things I’ve Learned from My Relationship
Being “off-the-market” for two years now has lent me some insight into my current relationship; certainly that's obvious. Recently I've talked with my partner on the Urban Dater, Taylor, about our relationships and I've learned some things, so I decided to put a few of them down on the ol' blog here.
- The hardest job you'll ever work on is your relationship. Even when there's a vacation, there really is NO vacation. You have to keep working at it.
- Relationships are like any potted plant, with out attention and nutrition, they'll die.
- Know when to keep your effing mouth shut.
- Sometimes your partner doesn't want you to “fix” them; they just want time to be “broken.”
- It's important to put effort into getting to know your significant other's friends and family.
- At the end of the day, who gives a shit if they like you or not? If you work on #5, they'll like you, or they won't. It's their problem, not yours.
- Saying “I'm wrong” never gets easier
- The ladies still think I'm sexy…
- Oh and there are different levels of flirtation. Go with the one that your significant other approves of… This may take some experimentation, and a punch to the stomach until you find the level that works best for you.
- Effort is everything
- Say “I love you.”
- Sometimes the best part of my relationship is when I wake up at 2 or 3am and I see the person I love right next to me… Snoring or drooling and I know that she's with ME. She gets me and has my back. I still can't get over that…
- Coming home means something different to me now… And that's awesome.
- Relationships aren't easy; they require work…
- Guess what? So does passion!
- You're doing better than some couples. Cool.
- Other couples are doing better than you. Bummer.
- Don't compare yourselves to other couples, you jackasses!
- Count before you say something stupid. This often helps you say stupid things less stupidly.
- The grass is always, always, always greener… Just is. So be happy where you're at. You're fine. Get over it.
- Actions still don't lie in a relationship. That becomes even more important as the years pile on.
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