In today’s day and age, besides verbal and physical interaction, flirting substantially comes down to…texting. Not as well-versed as a letter. Not as natural as a phone call. But acts a huge component to how we carry and portray ourselves.
Texting is like any other social grace and with it comes technique. Here are five factors that can really amp your texting game.
The time you sent the text and the distance between texts sent can actually have a ton of implications.
- 5am- Morning bird.
- 9am-11am- You’re the first thing I think about after waking up.
- 12pm-2pm- I’m thinking of you throughout the entire day.
- 3pm-5pm- The sweet spot of neutral texting.
- 8pm-10pm- Romantic.
- 11pm and after- Booty call.
Funnily, days matter too. Early Monday mornings are eager while Late Friday nights are admittedly a little salacious.
Frequency ties in just as much with the timeline of a text.
- Texting everyday- I feel like we’ve established enough rapport or I’m chasing you really wholeheartedly.
- Every other day/few days- Very interested and wants to maintain rapport.
- Every week- I want to check in with you.
- Sporadically- I’m faintly interested in you and orbiting.
In conclusion, adjust the time of the text sent for the desired implication.
The text length should match the occasion and familiarity of association with the person. Stay away from paragraphs in the early stages of texting. It may cause participants to rely heavily on phone screens to establish rapport. Make sure for, let’s say, every sentence of text you send, you’ve already have had a paragraph’s worth of verbal interaction with this person.
Emojis, Images, GIFS, and other media
Emojis are a good giveaway to send a romantic message. There is a good upward curve that comes with emojis but don’t overdo it and text five flashlights and a strawberry. That just doesn’t even add up in emoji world. Use GIFs sparingly. Those are addicting! And…well, our conversations should sparkle in other ways besides the animations we’re sending.
Photos, especially of places or activities you have just recently been at, are excellent ways to enhance your texting game! It adds another element of mystery, intrigue, and personality that the receiver can fawn over.
Tone of the texts is everything. If you’re abbreviating everything in lol, k, jk, brb, omw, wyd, and sup, you’re very laid-back and non-committal. Whereas, if you’re texting very articulately with succinct punctuation, it carries a far more uptight, serious tone. You can bounce in between these two moods. Vary up your texting tone just like you would vary it up while speaking.
Brain teasers, puzzles, “accidental texts,” inside jokes, screenshots, poems, songs, links, articles, drawings, quotes, typos, subliminal and/or suggestive sentences, and vocabulary. Tons and tons of good descriptive vocabulary that feeds the imagination.
There you have it. Once you’re done understanding more of the anatomy of a text, you’ll master it in no time. Of course, responses will vary but these are patterns I’ve found quite consistent. Exposure and experience is key. So warm up your thumbs and start texting!
Sarah Suhaimi practices 명음 by day and the art of dark chocolate bar swindling by night. She is currently working closely with a local Pittsburgh non-profit that serves sex-trafficked victims, Living in Liberty, as a volunteer and grant proposal writer. She founded the Southeast Asian Student Alliance (SEASA) at her university, and, as well, the "Offer Islam Campaign." Her works vary from prose to poetry to articles. Her published works include, ‘The Home of an Immigrant’s Daughter’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2012 Dublin Biennial, Dublin, Ireland and ‘Hidden Beauty Reveals Itself (Intellect Vs Instinct)’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2011 Florence Biennale VIII, Florence, Italy.