My Take on Dating in SoCal.

The following article features my contribution to WinkWinkZoe's article on her blog, definitely check her out! All the guys are doing it. 😉

Dating in Southern California is pretty amazing.  Theoretically, depending on how ambitious you are and your date's tolerance levels, you could start a date by skiing early in the morning, grab a bite to eat at a trendy, well reviewed, eatery in the late morning/afternoon; then head off to the beach to relax while you and your date oggle one another's beach attire.  When it's all said and done, you and your date could knock a couple drinks at a beach side bar or night spot.  Yeah, you and your date probably won't be doing that… That's the thing, though.  Dating in So Cal offers so many possibilities.  So one must learn to use the tools at their disposal, to be come an agile dater.Dating So Cal is kind of like taking a nymphomaniac and putting them in the Adult Superstore, in Las Vegas.  I'd liken it to the slogan that AM/PM was recently using: “Too much good stuff.”  That's what dating in Southern California is like.

Because Southern California is such a melting pot of culture there's no shortage of amazing places to eat, museums to see and art festivals to attend… There's simply no way to cover all of the awesome things one could do.  The true beauty of intrigue of dating in So Cal is difficult, at best, to discover on one's own, unless one is possessed of infinite curiosity and motivation to get out there and discover all of the interesting nooks and crannies that Southern California, Los Angeles in particular, has to offer.  Fortunately, these “nooks and crannies,” true gems of local culture are more easily found and accessible with the wide spread usage and adoption of Social Media in today's culture.  I single out Yelp and Foursquare in particular, as these are tools, as an agile dater myself, that I have used countless times.

I am from Orange County; there's lots to do here, however, for a good long time I was exclusively dating women out in Los Angeles, because I wanted to expand/geo target my dating activities to areas I didn't know well.  For one of my dates, the gal I was to meet picked out a hip little coffee shop in Culver City to meet at… Turns out that coffee shop was closed that day.  Not to worry, with the help of Social Media I was able to direct us to Royal Tea, also in Culver City.  I tell you, an awesome place.  It had a personality, it was a hollowed out warehouse building, with a pop/comic art exhibit on display and just a hip vibe to it, not to mention amazing Royal Honey Milk Tea.  Mmm.  This location was truly a needle in a hay stack.

The fact that there are so many choices of things to do on a date, in So. Cal, is truly amazing.  The true talent isn't necessarily finding something to do; it's finding the right thing to do together with your date.  It's easy to go overboard.  Keep it simple, be agile, and Southern California, with its myriad things to do, see and eat, will take care of you.

Until next time, kids, keep it moving out there.

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Alex is the founder and managing editor at the Urban Dater. Alex also runs: DigiSavvy, for which he is the co-founder and Principal. Alex has a lot on his mind. Will he ever get it right? If he does, he'll be sure to write.

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  1. So true! I didn't know you were in SoCal. Royal T is awesome – they often have fun events there – I recently attended Cirque du So Lame (lots of fun people playing dress-up) and the Hello Kitty exhibit (can you say Harajuku girls?).

    There is *never* a dearth of fun activities here in LA, and everyone is so open-minded. I love it. Happy dating!

  2. Yeah, I've found a ton of fun places to hang out in L.A. Now – if only I could find a date to go with me I'd be set.

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