Ask the Urban Dater: What Does it Mean if a Guy Gives You His Number? Does it Matter?

Well here’s another ques­tion posed to the Urban Dater recently.

@lildevilmama asks:
What does it mean if a guy gives you his num­ber? Does it mean he’s not inter­ested? Does it matter?

A solid ques­tion, lil’ mama and yeah, it does mat­ter!

In the approach game, if a guy is inter­ested in a girl, he should approach her open a con­ver­sa­tion and close by say­ing his good­byes and hope­fully get a num­ber.  That’s the gen­eral, if over sim­pli­fied, way that inter­ac­tion should break down.  That the guy gave you HIS num­ber does mean that he’s inter­ested but, in my opin­ion, he’s lack­ing the con­fi­dence to really ask you out.  I sup­pose he may truly be not inter­ested, but in either case you should NOT call that num­ber, no mat­ter how good look­ing the guy is or how many days have passed.

You see, I feel that if there’s some­thing you want in life, you make an effort.  Any­thing worth hav­ing is worth mak­ing an effort for… Some­times peo­ple for­get that.  Firstly do you not want some­one who actu­ally makes an effort to attain the things that they want; desire out of life?  I know I do.  Part of it is being goal ori­ented, part of it is just tak­ing the dri­vers seat in life.  Sec­ondly, aren’t YOU worth the effort?  Yeah, you are worth the effort.  A woman should be pur­sued! That’s what women really want!  She should feel wanted and a man needs to under­stand this and make an effort.

In short, no, do not call this guy.  If he can’t be both­ered to ask you out; you cer­tainly can’t be both­ered to con­tact him.  He’s not worth the time or the effort after all.

Until next time, ladies, don’t be givin’ no time to chicken heads!

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