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Fetishes and Fantasies About Rape.

yannibmbr on April 29, 2010
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Before I get into this article, understand that this about rape fantasies. So don't flame me in the comments section for saying I'm insensitive and a gigantic ass bag. I know this already! I have to live with myself, people!!! So you're probably here for a few reasons: For starters, maybe you're here because you're offended by the title, you think I'm a huge perv; perhaps you want to teach me a lesson and call me a turd? Go for it, comments are below. Or you want to get raped to satisfy your fantasy. If so, read on.

People are into some off the wall stuff. There's no way around it. It's impossible for me to sit here, in my closet full of Ed Hardy shirts and the shattered remains of my heterosexuality, and catalog each and every fetish. But let's talk about Rape Fantasies.So why would a woman want to be raped and how can we, as men, help them get raped? Actually, that sounds really bad. No, we're not actually trying to get women raped, I mean that's not good at all. To be clear, we're talking about the fantasy of rape that some women seem to have and ways that their men can accommodate that fantasy and, in doing so, incite a more intense sexual experience.

Okay, let's try to understand some of what goes into this fantasy of rape. Some people, men and women (yes, both), enjoy suffering within the throes of sexual congress. It's a masochistic mindset and if you believe what you read in Psychology books or hear from your local run-of-the-mill therapist, then Masochism and rape fantasies go together like peas and carrots. Or, perhaps, a person is just very much a Marco Polo of sex, or the James T. Kirk of sex, going where no man has gone before… So, in short, some people like pain with their sex, I know I do; I just don't wanna get raped as it reminds me of a bad rock climbing incident back in 86′ in Beirut. Some like the loss of control and being helpless, and it's a trust thing. Others just like an adventure… Struggle play is a big part of many peoples' sex lives and it manifests itself in a number of intriguing ways, including rape fantasies.

As we all should know communication is the key to a healthy relationship, just as much as it is to a healthy sex life. I can't tell you how many times I've heard from people, or friends, that are just having “ho-hum” sex or not having it at all! Lame! Communicate. While the inherent feeling behind a rape fantasy is to lose control and the feeling of controlled fear, I recommend talking about this with your partner first. I actually dated a girl that was very much into this. It came up in conversation. They key I took from our conversation was that she didn't want to know it was coming and she didn't want to feel like it was planned. I noted this factoid for later use, after our conversation.

It wasn't too long after when I indulged Kasey in her fantasy. We were on our way out to drink with her friends and I pinned her against a wall, forcefully, and I talked forcefully to her; told her what I'd do if she resisted me, and resisted she tried. Needless to say, I never saw her so intense…. It was something for the books, to be sure. Two things to note here: Communication. You have to be careful, you can't just do the rape fantasy with a gal that hasn't talked to you about it… There's a chance she may like it, but there's also a chance you'll be a featured member of your community's sex offender web site. That would suck worse than a hooker with lock jaw. The other thing to note is improvisation. I never brought the subject up after we talked about it. I talked to some friends about this and they agreed that I should make this as unscripted as possible. I had it in mind that we would be doing this in my home or hers, since I have a roommate, that probably wasn't going to work and hers needed to be out of town or overdosed on Flinstone Vitamins, I didn't care which! When the opportunity presented itself, I took it and I'm glad I did. While I, you know, had a good time, she was on overload and that's what got me going of course. It was really hot and she was exhausted and sweaty, it was amazing really, to be able to incite such a sexual response from someone. It seemed like a bit of a risk at the time, but in thinking about it, because we did talk about it, everything worked like a charm.

Communication and a safe place were the keys to the “game,” so to speak. Oh and if you fail hard at this whole rape fantasy thing, I take no responsibility for your failure, or if you get hauled off to the slammer, where you share a bed with big Manny, as he calls you “mija.” Not my fault.

Until next time, kids, have fun out there.

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Alex is the founder, creative director and managing editor at the Urban Dater. Alex also runs his own boutique marketing agency in Orange County, Ca: DigiSavvy. Among his treasured pursuits are bike rides with his girlfriend (don't be perverted, now!), hiking, watching the Portland Trailblazers and the LA Angels. Follow Alex: Twitter | LinkedIn

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  1. brewers_rule April 28, 2010 at 10:11 am

    That's why I've instituted the Safety Word is Banana Policy, myself 😉

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  2. Caitlyn April 28, 2010 at 11:12 am

    I get the whole "lets attract people to my blog by putting outlandish titles" but seriously … what is wrong with you.

    Don't give a whole speech about how some people are obviously here because they are offended … you are damn right we are offended. I don't give two shits about you wanting to drag people into your little pathetic blog .. change the title. No one wants to get raped.

    Come back to me when someone sticks their dick inside you and watches you cry throughout the whole thing.

    You are an idiot.

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  3. alex May 5, 2010 at 9:31 pm

    To be fair, Caitlyn's comment was in response to this post's original title "So You Want to Get Raped." Yeah, I'm an idiot. Thanks, Cait.
    .-= alex´s last blog ..Rooting the N1 on Android 2.1 =-.

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  4. Jennifer Alvarez April 10, 2015 at 12:09 pm

    I found the article amusing. Then again I’m here because the title intrigued me. I’m one of those people with a rape fantasy. Performed with my husband in a semi controlled environment, as he explained. With permission and safety rules in place, it’s a turn on. I understand that it is taboo, and real rape is no joke. Media does it’s part in feeding this fantasy. Out of curiosity, did you complain when the hot guy raped some chick in a movie? Etc… I wish I could muster up a better example, hopefully you understand what I was getting at. To each his/her own… I suppose.

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  5. Secret November 5, 2016 at 8:38 am

    I enjoy being hurt raped start slow then hurt me chock me im only 24 I try to figueq out why i enjoy it but don’t know I enjoy it love it…I know its weird hut its me

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Fetishes and Fantasies About Rape.

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