I've always been on the unofficial search for better sex tips. I consider myself well versed in foreplay and setting the mood for love but somehow despite having many erotic bedroom encounters in my past, it always seemed like there was a disconnect from experiencing a full, real honest earth-shaking orgasm during sex.
Several years ago when sex toys become a hot commodity in the bedroom. I discovered a few vibrators I really loved, the rabbit vibrator in particular helped me to orgasm in seconds. What happened next was quite surprising – I started to enjoy the feeling of my vibrator more then sex!
I wondered if I was becoming addicted to my vibrator but then it dawned on me that I simply felt a stronger orgasm from the vibrator then I did from a man's penis. I really wanted to capture the essence of this rabbit vibrator-induced orgasm into the bedroom with a human, not a battery operated device. Being the clever girl I am, I analyzed what I love so much about my experience with the vibrator and discovered these 2 secrets to having better orgasms with my human husband:
Focus on the Clitoris
Clitoral vibration was the best part of the vibrator, we already know clitoral touching is a big part of foreplay and usually the first place a man reaches when he wants to turn you on. The clitoris is a button like the on/off switch but I think it's also the volume switch. Turn it during the best part of the song and it amplifies everything.
Vibrations feel so much better then simply a finger rub. Bullet vibrators are mostly targeted to modest women who are too inhibited to insert a vibrator – or so I thought. I looked at this tiny sex toy in an entirely new light when I used it during sex. Hold the bullet on your clitoris during the lovemaking and this single action alone is your ticket to better sex. Examples of bullet vibrators can be found here.
Many positions work very well, laying on the bed with the man standing on the floor is my favorite position. Everything is exposed allowing you to place the bullet where you want and firmly hold it in place. Ask him to start very slow as you work your way up to the moment of orgasm then tell him to go faster – BAM! The feeling is incredible, the power of the clitoral vibration combined with the muscle clenching orgasm is so perfect. Add in your partners thrusting and it's a hot blooded passionate ride you'll never forget. – I promise!
Orgasm Before Sex.
Let's back up a little bit, remember that bullet vibrator? Grab it before your encounter even begins. In your private time (or with your partner watching) hold it directly on the clitoris and let yourself reach orgasm – but don't allow vaginal penetration. After you've experienced a clitoral-only orgasm, the vagina feels so nice, warm & inviting. The vagina welcomes your partner's manhood with open arms it feels amazing to have the nice warm strong manhood inside the wanting vagina. I understand the inspiration behind erotica novels now, I had the stream of words run through my head as I relished every single second, every single inch. You'll experience a sexual craving in the truest sense. Coming off an orgasm, my body was already in the moment, ready and waiting to go. Every movement felt amplified – and I did not even have my bullet in hand!
I noticed how much better sex feels AFTER an orgasm. I would describe it as sensitive and passionate. Now is the time to be caressed and play a slow jam sexy hip hop tune in the background, moving with the slow beat made me feel like some goddess in a music video. I'm the type of girl who loves to fantasize… I will save that story for my next contribution – stay tuned and thanks for reading. I hope you you’ve been inspired and will give my tips a try!
Trina Denzel is a thirty something author helping to promote a healthy sex life through her own personal experiences. Her main goal is to inspire women & men to explore erotic pleasures together by trying new things!