There are few worse realizations in life than discovering that a loved one is may be having an affair. The pain that this discovery brings can be unfathomable, especially when being caught completely off guard by the person whom you trust the most.
To those who have never had to experience this, be thankful. And for the rest of us out there who know all too well about cheating partners, wandering eyes, and downright manipulation, hopefully we can offer a few lessons learned from the process that may just help others.
This is because infidelity does not usually arise out of nowhere. When somebody cheats, there are often a few signs and indications that will hint at something being off. In this article I will examine a few of the most common signs that your partner may be having an affair.
1. He or she is extremely hard to reach via phone.
Let’s be real. These days, just about everyone alive doesn't go more than twenty minutes without checking his or her phone. If you find yourself always texting to a phantom partner, or going hours on end without returned phone calls, there is a good chance that your partner is not where he or she is claiming to be.
Unless you are living in a third world country where cell-phone service is all but non-existent, and flip phones dominate the universe, a partner should almost always be able to get back to you within a reasonable time frame.
2. Your partner is resistant to sex.
This is especially true in the case of men. Men are not machines. If they are having an affair and being satisfied elsewhere, odds are that they are not going to be able to come home for another marathon session.
Women on the other hand may be just as resistant to having relations with more than one person at the same time, since many women operate on more of an emotional level. This will leave the current boyfriend or husband on the back-burner as they find stimulation emotionally and physically elsewhere.
At the end of the day, the physical aspect of a relationship is extremely important. If this all but vanishes, there is a reason for concern.
3. There is a complete emotional detachment.
Remember the good old days of the relationship when your partner would show emotion in regards to the relationship? He or she would strive to please you. He or she always wanted to take you out. Even fights had some passion behind them.
If all the sudden there is a complete emotional detachment in regards to all aspects of the relationship, this may be a sign that the person’s mind is elsewhere. Especially if your partner constantly leaves the house every time an issue comes up.
If your partner is not in fact cheating, then he or she may just be mentally checked out of the relationship and ready to move on. Regardless, both are not good signs!
Joshua Pompey is a dating coach and relationship expert, specializing in online dating. Click here for plenty of free advice on writing first emails, and read free sample profiles from Joshua Pompey as well.