Speed Dating, The Analog Tinder

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Tinder is an elegantly beautiful and simple dating app. Its wonderful simplicity and easy to understand concept is what makes tinder so great! Swipe left if you don’t want to date the person on your screen and swipe right if you do. The simplicity is beautiful but does it really work all that well in the grand scheme of things?

I myself and many others have been victims to the infamous and horrific tinder date. You know, that cringe worthy and awkward date that has you asking yourself “How long do I need to be here before it’s no longer considered rude to leave?” If you have been on a couple of tinder dates, you probably know what I am talking about. It’s the tinder dates you wish you could erase from your memory. It’s the date with the person who desperately wants to get over their ex or the date who has absolutely nothing in common with you but still wants to see you again or worse it’s the date with that weird person with the crazy eyes who looks like they will snap if the waiter brings them the wrong drink.

After several of these, you look for someone or something to blame. You find yourself saying things like “People on tinder are all weird” or “Tinder is a terrible app”. You point the blame on the app or the people using the app, it is a natural step towards your ultimate realization, the inevitable conclusion that it’s all your own doing.

There is a lovely sense of calm and clarity that you acquire when you realize what is actually happening. The truth is, you expected too much.

Sure there are a lot of people on tinder or any online dating service what will find love. I am not going to say that people don’t find love on these sites or apps because that is not true but the actual chances are not stacked up in your favor, this is regardless of whether you are a guy or a girl. Only 33% of online daters form a relationship, 33% do not and 33% give up. Once you have let those percentages sink in, You will probably wonder to yourself “what about the 1% left over?” Well the 1% are more than likely chat bots or scammers because on free dating sites, at least 10% of new accounts are from scammers. The most interesting fact I found was that Women are most afraid of meeting serial killers whilst men are most afraid of meeting someone fat.

All in all it’s no surprise there are over 50 million people single in the US, and yet the online dating industry is generating a whopping 1.8 billion dollars a year and it is steadily growing, it surprises me that only 33% of people who actual try online dating or dating apps actually find a partner.

I myself have quit online dating and dating apps all together, I have been down that online road and I decided to take my love life offline.  I ventured out and tried to meet people the old fashion way. It wasn't long until I found out about speed dating and went to an event called Speed dating Sydney.

Speed dating was invented in 1999 and has since grown popular around the world, and could be called the analog tinder. The way speed dating works is, you get a room full of single guys and girls, you let them have a short 5 minute date with one another. After each short date, they write down on a card whether they liked or didn’t like that date. You then hand in that card at the end of the night and then are emailed the details of people who mutually matched with you. I fell in love with this concept so much I began running my own events but that's a whole other story.

With speed dating you get so much more than just a photo or a quick text chat, you get to meet that person face to face, you hear their voice, you see how they move and you get an impression of them that isn’t doctored like an online profile or a photo-shopped picture. Naturally this means that when you go on a proper date with that person, you are more likely to have a good date and get along with that person. There are no nasty surprises or uncertainties. You know what to expect from the beginning because you have already met them.

Ultimately there are pros and cons to both online and offline dating, but there are not a lot of choices when it comes to offline dating asides from picking someone up at a sleazy bar or meeting someone through your incestuous friend circles. Here are some facts though, 95% of men and 80% of women report a positive experience at speed dating event, not to mention that 70% of men and 90% of women will get matches on one event. So if you’re struggling to have a good date or get into a relationship perhaps it’s time to take you’re dating offline.

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Cristian is a professional dating coach with over 5 years experience. Cristian has helped hundreds of singles from all walks of life improve the success in their dating lives. He is also the owner of the the company simply speed dating which runs Speed dating Sydney

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