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How to find a source of conflict in your relationship

Sarah Williams on September 29, 2014
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Communication is extremely important within any relationship. As a part of a couple you have to be able to discuss how you feel be it sadness, anger or tension. Conflict requires you to at least try and see the other side of things, even if you are sure that you are right. There are no perfect couples so there is always a need of a wise relationship advice.

 

There are always two sides to any story

If you feel that your partner is placing unrealistic demands on you or that there are unresolved issues even, you need to choose your time to sit down and discuss. No-one likes opening up old wounds but otherwise conflict and bitterness only starts to ferment.

If you know that the conflict is external for example but that it impedes both of your lives together, then it’s important that you manage conflict by growing closer as a couple and to begin to understand how the other reacts to times of pressure. Perhaps his family have not been the best at communicating in the past but now you need to change how you both interact together .

 

Maybe you are not aware of your partner’s dissatisfaction?

You might not feel like listening to him as he regales the whole argument from his perspective, but listening and good communication is a two-way street and you need to understand even if you don’t agree. Maybe your conflicts have deeper base, which is relatively easy to solve. His sexual problems or her lack of mood for sex may significantly influence all the other spheres of the relationship.

 

Don’t wait until the eruption

Some conflict might have you boiling over with anger but hold fast before you erupt. Just because you are feeling it right now, doesn’t mean it’s the best time to bring your pent up emotions out. Timing is everything and if you have just had a heated row, you might both need some cooling off time. This gives you the opportunity to identify what is the most important and to let some of the anger go before you respond and say something that you don’t really mean.
Before rushing in like a bull at a gate, establish what you really need or want from your partner. Be very clear in your needs so that you can make him understand and bring a sense of clarity to the situation, if you don’t know what you want, how would he?

 

Think logically, not emotionally

When you are involved with a situation of conflict, it’s difficult to remain level-headed. You might find yourself discussing several different issues at once and this will only add to any confusion. You have to remember that most couples will not agree on everything but rather than continuously fighting, a compromise may be called for. If there is something that you really need from the relationship, you might have to be prepared to really spell it out for your partner, being wholly in communicative terms probably won’t do you any favours so instead, state how things can improve and be succinct.

If the conversation is not going quite to plan and you are obviously not getting your feelings across for any one of a variety of reasons, then put yourself on mute and wait until the right moment comes so that you can calmly discuss. Conflict can be internally and externally caused so your plan of action to resolve has to be intuitive and measured if you are going to be successful.

Relationships offer lots of potential for misunderstandings and miscommunications and you have to respect change even if you resent it. Accepting that there are differences of opinion between you and your partner is a healthy stance to take and for emotional reasons, if you have a strong, romantic connection and the foundations of your relationship are strong, conflict will not ultimately come between you.

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Sarah Williams is a busy full-time dating advisor and lifestyle blogger. She loves motivating people to reach their highest potential, boost their energy and feel better in their own skin. You can connect with Sarah on Wingman Magazine

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  1. fabalpha December 25, 2015 at 9:06 am

    Hello,
    I fully agree with you.Long distance relationship can work as a biggest test of any relation and this will surely going to test the endurance of your relationship too. We are neither in favour nor opposing your long distance relation, this article is just to make you guys aware of the conditions and there situations that you will probably deal with while being in Long distance relationship.

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