3 Reasons Why Men Play Games With Your Heart

It has been a few days since the date. You sit on your couch waiting, confused, and wondering what could have went wrong. The dates were going great and he seemed so into you, so why won’t he call.

At the risk of coming off as needy you cave and send a text, because of your curiosity and frustration. He then takes hours to respond even though it’s a quiet sunday afternoon.

The text claims he had a wonderful time but work has gotten hectic, as soon as he gets time he will see you again. That is the last text you ever received from him, leaving you searching for answers to why do men do what they do.

If he wasn’t interested why string you along? Don’t worry you are not alone all women at some point in their lives have been a victim to a man playing games.

But why do they do it? Are they secretly trying to drive women across the globe crazy? Well..

It Works

Though there are women that will at the sight of games, close the door on a relationship, like all things there are always exceptions.

Some women love a man who plays hard to get, the unpredictability and the thrill of the chase.
The few successes he receives causes some men to continue to play this throughout their lives, leaving broken hearts in their path.

Fear of Commitment

One day he will seem completely infatuated with you and other days its like he is lost at sea. The back and forth of what a man does can seem like he is intentionally playing with your heart but it is actually his fear of commitment.

Fear that can stem from past baggage from other relationships or worry that if things get too serious he will lose some of the “benefits” of single life. This will cause him to get close then withdraw as he tries to figure out what he really wants.

He’s Just Not That Into You

Sometimes what you see is what you get. His lack of interest is really him saying β€˜hes just not that into you’. Stringing you along as a way to keep his options open keeping you as an emergency relationship parachute.

What Should You Do?

1. Evaluate the situation

First decide if this guy is truly worth the trouble. Grab a piece of paper and write down the pro and cons of further pursuing the relationship. If you do decide that you would like to keep on seeing him..

2. Directly Address the situation

Let him know that the way he acts bothers you and that you would like things to change. Then wait a few days to see if he changes, If not..

3. Walk away

I know this isn’t always easy but sometimes you have to. If he doesn’t like you enough to stop playing the games then he is not the right guy for you.

Always remember that you deserve the best and should never settle for a man who isn’t on the same page as you.

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  1. Snake Oil Baron says

    The “He’s just not that into you” segment is a bit presumptuous. Lots of guys just don’t want to deliver an outright rejection. Guys deal with rejection constantly and we know it sucks. Lots of guys assume that women have so many options that just leaving a budding relationship to go cold will barely be noticed and she will have forgotten him by the next weekend. So calling her up and telling her outright that it’s not going to happen seems unnecessary, presumptuous and mean. Like calling up a store and telling them you decided to buy something from a store closer to your home (and I’m not comparing women to merchandise; it’s an analogy everyone). πŸ˜›

    Sure, there are guys (and girls) who leave things hang for a backup relationship but assuming the worst of people up front doesn’t give you any extra life points.

    • Snake Oil Baron says

      Sorry to have used the word “presumptuous” twice in one comment. It was a bit presumptuous of me. Damn, I did it again.

  2. Ronique says

    What I’m finding out is men are insecure and competitive. ..If you have more than them,I noticed they feel inferior of you.Dating has been real complicated for me.Im a dedicated hard working women and the men I’m attracting have been negative. What do you think the problem is.Anyone have any real sound solution

    • says

      Men are insecure creatures. Successful, beautiful women will have a harder time finding a good man. The best thing for women to do these days is to accept that they will not likely find a decent man ever and find other things to be happy about in life. Just use men for sex and never give them your heart.

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