5 Ways to Be Irresistible to Men

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Women everywhere ask themselves that important question, which is how to make themselves irresistible to men. To become an object of affection and envy is something that everyone thinks about at least one point in their lives, and most would go on to repeat that question to themselves over the course of their lives. With that in mind, here are about five things that you can do to become irresistible to men.

Confidence is everything

While this seems to have been overstated again and again, this is perhaps the basic foundation of any sort of self-presentation for the purposes of becoming more attractive. Confidence is sexy, and nothing is better than a beautiful woman who carries herself as such without any hesitation whatsoever. Not only is it about the right amount of belief in oneself that gets to them, but also the optimism that just expresses one's love for life and faith in things being okay despite whatever may happen.

As much as women like that in men, they also like that in women. Of course, don't go overboard with it so they don't get too intimidated or put off by the sheer amount of bravado you're exuding throughout the night.

Be friendly

This is another basic tip that should balance with the previous one, which is that you should have a friendly front. While there is also the part where you should act somewhat mysterious so that you get into their heads, it's no good if they decide that you're unapproachable. You have to somehow show them that you don't bite and that you're accessible to them at some level.

While it's an obvious thing that you shouldn't be too friendly, so you can still have your space, not be too “easy”, and so that they don't get their hopes up too much. With that said, you should know the level of involvement that you should engage in with them, which is not too distant yet not too close at the same time.

Be aware of the men who do interest you

This is more like an awareness of your environment, which takes from the even level of involvement in conversations that was discussed in the previous tip. If you get so engrossed in a conversation, you may miss the guys passing by who may actually be your type. This is where your conversational and overall social skills will be tested, especially since you have to maintain your station as a woman.

You can't start looking like some flooziewho approaches every man in the party without discretion, but still talk to that one guy with potential in the party somehow. This can be achieved with just a look at his direction. When you two do make eye contact, give him an inviting look and maybe even a wink (although that may be a bit overboard) and he may come around sooner or later. Just don't look too much as if you're desperate and always exercise discretion.

Some flattery is good

It's not a bad thing to flatter guys who you may be interested in every once in a while. Men tend to spend more time with women who may admire them, even if it's just a light tap on the shoulder and a smile to send him to the right direction. You'd be surprised with how well it works out, but you do have to be careful.

The art of flattery is a very subtle and delicate one since it's very easy for anyone to know if you're overdoing it. It's not really good to not do it since that'll make you look like a snob, but you can't do it too much to an individual since it'll make you look desperate and easy, and that's not good for any woman. In this case, it's always about your own discretion and how you carry it.

Learn to Listen

The secret to figuring men out is to learn how to listen to them and work out what they're about. It may be a wonder for a lot of ladies about why men could be so callous and careless when dealing with them, and it's a good idea to have some understanding on why that's so instead of just whining about it all the time.

That understanding can make you more attractive since you'll be easier to deal with for them. Of course, you wouldn't want to come off as someone who could cut them slack for making mistakes, but it's a good thing if you're the type of girl who would let some stuff slide from time to time.

Remember that being heard is not the only part of conversation and bonding, but listening as well. As much as men should learn how to listen, so should you. Being a good listener definitely makes you irresistible to men as it makes them so as well.

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Elizabeth Davis has 20 years of experience as a relationship adviser. She writes and shares more relationship tips and marriage advice on her blog Relationshipsadvice.co.

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  1. Great advice! I think most women have a difficult time with even being aware of the opportunities around them! We tend to pleasant and warm but really forget to subtly turn up the heat when there is a man that truly peaks out interest! Great post!

  2. These are great reminders. I was recently reminded that I don’t have much of a ‘poker face.’ My mood is easily seen on my face and, when in public, I often times forget there are men eyeing me, determining if I’m approachable or not. I, of course, am, and they find that out when/if they begin a conversation with me, but was told probably very few do because my face is a constant portrait of all of my inner thoughts.

    It’s something I have to be mindful of and work on. Great post!

  3. Flattery will get you everywhere with me… Not that women necessarily want to hear that, but it’s definitely an art form, for sure.

  4. Girls, we’ll never truly understand what goes on in their heads but there are some good tips here to help us be irresistible to them! I agree that confidence is key but with a hint of flattery. Great article!

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