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How To Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back – A Short Guide

Kevin Thompson on December 6, 2013
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breakupGenerally, it’s not a wise idea to get back with an ex. Most people will tell you to just move on and find someone else. But sometimes, you have to make an exception and try to give it a second chance. Sometimes, you know the relationship with your ex was special and even though it ended, it will be worth giving another try.

However, after a breakup, your mind is confused, desperate and in quite a bit of chaos. At this time, you are not properly equipped to win your ex back. In fact, you are most probably showing off signs of neediness and insecurity that is only going to push him away further.

Step 1. Get Yourself Together

The first thing you need to do is stop being the stalk-y, obsessive ex girlfriend that keeps on calling and texting her ex in hopes that he will love you again. That is straight up unattractive and it’s only going to make him want to stay as far away from you as possible. The key to getting an ex back is to stay calm and take things slow. You both need some space right now. So give it to him and yourself.

Step 2. Stop All Communication

You must stop all communication with your ex boyfriend. You are going to give him some time to miss you. Unless he starts missing you, he will not realize what he is losing. And he is not going to miss you if you keep texting him cute little emoticons all day long. That’s why you must cut off ALL communication. That means no calling, no Facebook, no IMs, no texts, and no accidentally bumping into him at his favorite coffee shop. You might think that if you stop communication with him he will move on. But the truth is, he won’t. And even if he does, you can get your ex back even if he has moved on with the same steps provided in this article.

Step 3. Make a Few Changes

A little change in your physical appearance can be beneficial to you. A new hairstyle, or maybe a new dress can make him drool over you when he sees you after a long time. It’s very attractive to see someone familiar in a new way.

Apart from these physical changes, it’s also a good idea to make positive changes in your lifestyle. If you had been wallowing in self-pity since the breakup, it’s time to go out and have some fun. Go clubbing or go on a shopping spree with your friends. Go to a spa and indulge yourself in your favorite hobbies. Do everything you can to make yourself happy. Just make sure you are not fooling yourself into thinking that the thing that makes you happy is a tub of ice cream.

Step 4. Re-Initiate Contact

 

Once you have gone through the “being miserable” phase of the breakup and have regained your awesomeness, it’s time to re-initiate contact with your ex. The key here is to take things slow and not make it completely obvious that you want to win him back. If you’ve done your homework, you should have gotten rid of all that insecurity and neediness that was making you behave like a stalk-y obsessive girlfriend.

When you do contact your ex boyfriend, he is going to pick up on your newfound confidence and will be taken by surprise. He is going to find himself attracted to you again and he will start wondering why the heck he left someone as amazing as you. From this point on, it will be easy to win your ex back.

What are your experiences with reconciliation? Do you know any couples that got back together and are in a happy relationship?

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Kevin writes about breakups and reconciliation. He has been helping people get their ex back for over two years.

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  1. Tash Olivers December 7, 2013 at 6:39 am

    I like how simply you’ve outlined the strategy: each step is definitely a great way to start the journey towards getting back your ex-boyfriend, and seems doable – which is really important for anyone who has just been through a breakup. You need a simple, straight-forward plan that will help you to get back on track, and starting with giving yourself and your ex some space is ideal.
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  2. MenThe10ComMANdments December 27, 2013 at 4:43 pm

    As I read all the comments I couldn’t stop thinking about how helpful and eye opening this book/guide would be, you have to check it out. AMAZING is not enough… http://menthe10commandments.com/buy-ebook—audio-book-1.html

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  3. Don January 18, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    I’ve never gotten back with an ex. I tried once, we got back together and were broken up again in 3 months. To me, an ex is an ex for a reason. It didn’t work out, so I pack up my things and move on with my life and the lessons I learned from the failed relationship. The end of a relationship sucks and it hurts, but running back to the other person to avoid the hurt is only going to hurt more when you break up again.

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