Why You Should Date Outside Your Comfort Zone
Refresh, rebrand, and re-date! Forget your Type and unbundle all the possibilities of dating outside of your usual. Here’s what happens when you do.
Provides More Opportunities
When you toss the list, your options quadruple. Once you’re open to more tastes, you will automatically be open to more experiences. Not only should you reevaluate what you’re expecting Before you even meet someone, but also During as well. People underestimate the power of summer flings or fiery trysts. Fight the temptation to “label.” Plenty of casual relationships snowball into something serious. It’s not about tossing standards. It’s about diversifying them.
Opens Your Eyes to Your Patterns AND Limits
When you meet someone you’re not necessarily Comfortable with dating, there’s a lot of room for growth. Is it their habits or lifestyle that’s so out there? Is it their predictability? Their unpredictability? Let’s say for a period of time, you had a track history of dating those who had quite a few issues. What does that say about you? See what happens when you date someone who’s in a calmer, more mature state of mind. It can be about personality as well. Dating a party-goer will un-hermit you eventually.
Allows You to Grow
Once you tunnel vision into dating certain types of people, you won’t stumble upon the cracks of dating in that path. Doing the opposite enables change. Your past mistakes will magnify, and you can act accordingly.
Do you know how fun it was to dumpster dive? So what if he was a freegan. So what if there was no way I’d change my lifestyle? At least I shared in it for a little window of time. You get to learn about things as well! My home base is Nerdsville or Artstown. But, over the years, I’ve accumulated more knowledge on the hooligan landscape (like learning what Robo-tripping is) and the conspiracies of C-Span and bouldering techniques. All because I decided to deviate.
You’re not tied down by one group or one singular experience. The possibilities are boundless.
You Stop Looking
When you’re not consumed by the best relationship, the “Perfect Guy,” or simply, the outcome, you’ll be in the most abundant and open mindset for love to happen. Without notice. Without expectation. When you’re your realest and most authentic self. Once you stop looking, you start seeing. And a view like that, can occasionally be…breathtaking 😉
Sarah Suhaimi practices 명음 by day and the art of dark chocolate bar swindling by night. She is currently working closely with a local Pittsburgh non-profit that serves sex-trafficked victims, Living in Liberty, as a volunteer and grant proposal writer. She founded the Southeast Asian Student Alliance (SEASA) at her university, and, as well, the "Offer Islam Campaign." Her works vary from prose to poetry to articles. Her published works include, ‘The Home of an Immigrant’s Daughter’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2012 Dublin Biennial, Dublin, Ireland and ‘Hidden Beauty Reveals Itself (Intellect Vs Instinct)’ in the Art Catalogue for the 2011 Florence Biennale VIII, Florence, Italy.
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