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Free Dating Sites Are for People Who Want One Night Stands

yannibmbr on May 30, 2013
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one_night_stand_material_t_shirts-r1cac1e7e3a8a430db877220f9933b20d_va6lr_512Sometimes it seems like it's a coordinated effort. All of these women on these various dating sites smattering the “What I'm looking for” section of their profile with something like “No, I'm not looking for a one night stand, so please don't ask” or “If you're just looking for a one night stand, move along.” Hmm. Fair enough.

Women, if you're on a free dating site and you're annoyed by the men who just want to fuck you, causing you to put a clause that says “I'm not here for one night stands” I'm going to tell you one thing!

STOP IT!!!!

Look, here's the thing y'all. Free online dating sites are free for all. It's easy to get on such a site and start sending unsolicited cock pics and say things like: “Hey baby, my favorite Care Bear was Fuckalot.” Free sites are where people who want one night stands flock to. Craigslist anyone? Shit, that site gave me a good number of disposable poon. Sure, it's an ugly thought, but, hey, that's why I was there.

Guess what? I'm not alone, people!

Even on OkCupid, the standard-bearer of all free online dating sites, women can't get away from the fact that there are dudes that want one night stands; as evidenced when I peruse the countless profiles with that disclaimer at the end about not wanting one-night nookie. Deal with it. That's what free online dating means. One night bang sessions.

I know, the truth hurts. “OMG, Alex,” you cry, “but there just has to be some sort of good guy on OkCupid that doesn't just want me for sex. Right” Sure, of course there is, but you don't give two shits about that guy. The guy that doesn't want a one night stand exists on free online dating sites and often looks like his face got caught in a bear trap or has the personality of an empty plastic cup of iced coffee that's been sitting out in a gutter for a month. No, no. You don't WANT the kind of guy that doesn't want one night stand bootie. Or do you?

By putting yourself on a free dating site, you're encouraging the one-night stand behavior, you're writing those disclaimers about…

I've talked to a number of women who get a ton of messages from guys who are hitting them up saying things like “sweetie,” “baby,” “nice tits” and more… detailed. A couple of my female friends have confided that, to a degree, they love the attention. But they just want a good guy. That's reasonable. Don't we all? Well, in my case, I'd like a good girl. Good girls are everywhere to be found, but why the fuck would a woman who wants a “good guy,” who doesn't want a one night stand, put a profile up on a free online dating site? That's just insane! Free dating sites stop short of putting the punany on a platter and serve it up to any who are buying… That's crazy to me.

Free dating sites are custom-made for people to get their bang on. And, yeah, yeah, maybe you met your long-term boyfriend there, or your husband, wife, fiance, life-mate, whatever; doesn't change the fact that if one night stand poon was on the table that they'd take it.

So, Ladies, if you find yourself pissed off, dejected, depressed or plain exasperated because all the guys on your free dating site only want to bang you, I'll tell you these words: STOP IT!!!!!!! And go sign up for a paid dating site like eHarmony or Match.com…

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Alex is the founder, creative director and managing editor at the Urban Dater. Alex also runs his own boutique marketing agency in Orange County, Ca: DigiSavvy. Among his treasured pursuits are bike rides with his girlfriend (don't be perverted, now!), hiking, watching the Portland Trailblazers and the LA Angels. Follow Alex: Twitter | LinkedIn

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  1. Divorced Kat August 5, 2013 at 6:31 pm

    The pro to being on a free site is that it’s a way to practice the online dating etiquette without too much commitment on my end. I’m not looking for anything in particular — not a husband, not really even looking for a boyfriend. I’m not all that interested in a one-nighter either. I just want practice meeting guys. That’s it.
    That said — I very much recognize that I get what I pay for.

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    1. Mark Jacola October 7, 2015 at 1:37 am

      I would love to meet some one on line to explore each other sexually via email.

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  2. trina October 30, 2013 at 8:22 am

    Only to have fun no strings attached

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  3. One Night Stands Q&A October 30, 2013 at 9:34 am

    I wouldn’t agree with you. Most of people on dating site are there because of dating. If you try to land some ONS you will see that is not easy at all

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  4. Lelani April 29, 2015 at 3:11 pm

    I agree, but your theory is slightly flawed. Women who use the “no one-night stands” disclaimer are, in fact, dealing with the fact that many men on free dating sites are looking for one-night stands. The disclaimer is their way of dealing with it. Also, in my experiences, Match.com is full of men looking for booty calls. So I would go so far as to say that if you have your profile on any online dating website, you are opening yourself up to one-night standers – hence some women’s use of disclaimers. I personally never used them, since I was able to weed out the ones trolling for sex via messaging, but I understand that frustration will move people to put up all kinds of disclaimers (the other popular one: “no games, no drama”).

    Also, please consider that some people don’t have the money to dump on paid sites like Match or eHarmony. eHarmony in particular is extremely expensive (and, from my experiences, not worth the time or money).

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