I’ve been reflecting a lot lately; I’ve been reflecting about the amazing blogging community that I’m so glad and proud to be a part of.
I’ve been blogging about a shade over a year and a half now, on the Urban Dater. In that time I’ve seen our visitors and page views steadily increase. We’ve received over 60,000 page views and over 30,000 visits. We’ve amassed a small, but dedicated, following of amazing people on both Twitter and Facebook. We’ve been very fortunate to make the connections that we have made.
One thing that I have learned is that no good deed goes unnoticed on Twitter and Facebook. I’m a firm believer that if you do something kind for someone else, then it comes back to you in some way or another. What an understatement!! The outpour of support and kindness from fellow bloggers and followers, alike, has been nothing short of amazing and humbling.
Countless bloggers have reached out and helped me, giving me advice, retweeting my articles, accepting guest posts from me and and even posting their own guest articles on the Urban Dater. I wish I could list them all here, especially my amazing followers on Twitter, alas, I cannot…
The community is very open and embracing to old bloggers and new bloggers alike, just ask any of your favorite bloggers. It’s important to ensure we keep our community and our bloggers in check as well. It’s important that we don’t lose sight of why we blog in the first place! For some of us, it’s a full time gig, yet it’s a love. To others, it’s a labor of love that bears no financial fruits; blogging gives us the chance to express ourselves to the world at large and impart our heart aches and breaks, wisdom and more.
Recently, though, I’ve become disturbed about what I’ve heard about a particular blogger. It’s come to my attention, recently, that a certain nameless blogger has been making personal attacks on fellow bloggers that I know and that I am friends with. In truth, I’ve known about this blogger’s wretched acts against fellow bloggers and friends, as I’ve bared witness to their acts of cruelty and heard countless numerous stories from friends that she’s burned in the past.
Needless to say, this behavior is unacceptable and while it would be easy for me to tell my followers and readers to give her the proverbial digital middle finger, I’m not going to do that. Instead, I will make my voice heard through personal action. In other words, I will not follow or promote any blogger that makes negative attacks or statements against anyone else. To go one step further, I will unfollow anyone that promotes this person’s Tweets or FB pages.. If you are someone I unfollow because of this, I will let you know why I unfollowed or unfriended you.
As the digital age brings everyone closer together, we need to use the voice our shared platform provides us! We have the right to make a stand against those whose voice attempts to drown out others, that attempt to tarnish our community and those who would attempt to attack others viciously. Community is important to me and that’s something I’ve learned with the Urban Dater, over the last year and a half. We have been very fortunate to have a voice that is heard and we get that! Furthermore, we will defend any voice that suffers from unprovoked aggression from others in the manner I stated earlier. It’s not just because it’s the “popular” thing to do; it’s our responsibility as an active members of the blogging community and I implore the same from my fellow bloggers, Facebookers and Twitter Followers. Yeah, it’s THAT important.
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