While there is nothing hotter than some red-hot dirty talk, there is also nothing worse than inappropriate awkward dirty talk.
So if you'd like to make sure you never create an embarrassing situation for yourself by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time than fear no more because here are the top 10 most common dirty talk mistakes people make:
- Too much too soon
- Not enough
- Poor timing
- No believability
- Too complicated
- Trying to memorize lines
- Not asking enough questions
- Making the other person uncomfortable
- Talking too much
- Too vague
Too Much Too Soon
With dirty talk you can’t just go from zero-to-hero out of the blue, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for awhile. It’s not natural.
Start off slow, and don’t do anything out of character (e.g swearing / getting TOO nasty).
Have you ever cooked a meal for someone than watched them eat it without making a sound? I haven’t but I imagine it stinks. You put in all that effort and they don’t even mmmmm or ahhhh.
Sex is the same thing. If you’re a mute in the sack chances are your partner doesn’t even know if you are being satisfied or not. And that is UNsatisfying.
There’s a place and a time for everything. And if you get caught saying the wrong thing in the wrong place, things are going to get awkward FAST.
Save the sexy talk for sexy times and you’ll be just fine.
Quick tip – don’t use pet names for each other in front of others. You will embarrass your partner.
“You are such a bad boy/girl. I am going to punish you.”
Some people like this kind of dirty talk (and it’s up to YOU to figure that out), but it’s all about the delivery. If you try and role-play like this and you aren’t actually excited about, it’s going to show.
The best way to avoid this is to only do things that you feel comfortable with and enjoy. Be yourself.
Trying To Memorize Lines
You might be able to find some good ol’ dirty talk phrases that sound exciting and work for awhile. The biggest problem with this method is that when your partner wants more (and they will) YOU will run out of things to say. And there’s nothing worse than being in the heat of the moment and your mind freezes up.
If you actually learn how to talk dirty you will never run out of things to say. Memorizing lines is a short cut that will ultimately lead to embarrassment.
Not Asking Enough Questions
You’re not a selfish lover right? Of course not! So stop giving one word answers and reciporcating.
This doesn’t go for everyone, but most of the time dirty talk is iniated by one party (either the guy or girl) then the other person trys to satisfy that person by giving them what they want. However, if your partner is asking questions, AVOID just giving one word yes or no answers.
Be specific, and ask them questions. This will take the heat off you and get their imagination rocking!
Making The Other Person Uncomfortble
There are certain words that should not be said in the bedroom, and despite what you might hear or see, the majority of peopl are not freaks in the sack.
Avoid being too vulgar or nasty with your words unless they iniate or ask.
Talking TOO Much
A lot of people talk when they get nervous, so if this is you, ZIP it.
Remember what makes dirty talk so exciting, the imagination! A lot of times less is more, and once you learn how to get their imagination running wild, you’re going to start having some real fun.
Being too chatty is a turn off, so if you notice you are talking way more than your partner, stop talking.
“Oh yes, I like that!” “It feels so good.”
Everybody has probably said something similar to the above examples at one time or another, especially when starting out. But being too vague with your words is, well, boring!
So a better way to say the exact same thing is “Oh (insert sexy nickname here), I love it when you (verb) my (noun).
Generally the more specific you are the better! Not only will this help you get what you want, but your partner will know you are having fun if you get into it and that will turn them on!
REMEMBER –Dirty talk is about having fun.
It’s okay to make mistakes, everyone does! But hopefuly with these tips you’ll be able to have more excitement in your sex life while worrying less about making a fool of yourself. Good luck!
Creator of 'The Dirty Talk Handbook' & 'From Girl To Goddess' Evan Michaels has helped thousands of men & women ignite their relationships by learning what the opposite sex desires and how to drive them wild!