How to Talk Dirty to a Man
Are you interested in talking dirty to a man but don’t know where to start? If you use the right words and say them like you mean them, you can drive your guy wild. Unfortunately, it’s not easy to figure out which words to use. Further still, it’s not easy to say them with confidence.
That doesn’t mean you can’t learn! With the right knowledge and patience, you can become a pro at dirty talk.
Talking dirty to your man can be anything from giving him encouragement, using creative words, providing him with vivid images, etc. It’s perfectly natural to feel shy about it at first.
I was shy when I first started to talk dirty to many man. But now I’m glad I gave it a try! I never realized how erotic naughty words can be. My sex life is mind-blowing now! I no longer get nervous or feel embarrassed.
YOU can have mind-blowing sex too. You just need to start out slow. Don’t be afraid to ask him questions to find out what he likes and what he doesn’t like.
Here are some tips for talking dirty to a man.
- Find out where he stands on the whole talking dirty issue. Most men appreciate a bit of dirty talk here and there. How far he will want you to go with it depends on his personality. If he’s shy or religious, some words might end up offending him rather than turning him on.
On the other hand, he might really love it if you use explicit language. Try to be open about the subject to see what kind of dirty talk he would like.
- Work on the TONE of your voice. It’s not just the words you say that are important – it’s also HOW you say them. If you don’t sound very convincing, he might wonder whether you’re all that into it. At first, it’s all right to be a little nervous, but if in time, you should get used to it. Just open up and let go.
Be spontaneous. The bedroom isn’t the only place where you can talk dirty. Leave him some flirty notes around the house. Send him some dirty text messages or naughty pics of yourself. Tell him that you have something reallllly nice to give him once the two of you are alone.
Whisper reassuring words into his ear. Sometimes whispering is better than moaning or screaming in pleasure. Whisper reassuring words into his ears. Simple phrases like “You are so amazing” or “That feels so good” can sound very erotic when whispered. It makes the experience seem that much more intimate.
Don’t be afraid to ask/tell him to do something for you. If you want him to use his fingers or mouth in a certain way, ask him to. If you feel uncomfortable in a certain position, tell him that you want to change it.
Now, here are some examples for talking dirty to a man.
• “I want you to go nice and slow, okay?
• “I’m gonna jump on you and ride you!”
• “I love the way your hands feel on me.”
• “You feel SO good inside me, baby!”
• “You’ve been a bad boy! Come here and let me punish you.”
• “That was hot! Let’s go for round two.”
• “You’re filling me up – you’re so big!”
• “I love it when you hold me and kiss me.”
• “Your tongue feels so good.”
• “You taste good. Why don’t you taste me?”
• “You’re going to make me cum and squirt if you keep that up!”
• “I’m coming!”
• Your body is so hot.”
You don’t have to say all of these. There are many other phrases you can use. As you start to get the hang of it, you’ll be able to come up with your own sexy phrases!
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I love talking dirty…..I think that men love it when you talk dirty to them…….I also think that you could say just about anything as long as he is attracted to you and it would turn him on.
Ha! This so reminds me of the Sex and the City episode when a guy Miranda is seeing wants her to talk dirty and she was not feeling it. Charlotte of all people points out that a few choice words do the trick. It's doesn't take much.
I heard kind of a gross expression from one of my guy friends back in the day when we were just a couple of youngsters who loved to bar hop. "Guys want a girl who's a lady in the streets and a slut between the sheets". – I warned you it would sound kinda gross :p
I get it though. Guys want a girl (sometimes) who has a bit of a deviant side in bed. Talking dirty is one of the easiest gateways to shaking things up and pushing the limits of lovemaking.
I heard kind of a gross expression from one of my guy friends back in the day when we were just a couple of youngsters who loved to bar hop. "Guys want a girl who's a lady in the streets and a slut between the sheets". – I warned you it would sound kinda gross :p
I get it though. Guys want a girl (sometimes) who has a bit of a deviant side in bed. Talking dirty is one of the easiest gateways to shaking things up and pushing the limits of lovemaking.
This is what I do and he loves it http://howtofixstuff.blogspot.com/2012/02/how-to-talk-dirty.html
I like this one especially for some reason:
“I love the way your hands feel on me.”
Also I would say that most men are into it and it shouldn’t be hard. Interesting post :-p
Hell, I’m a woman and I’d love it if a man said that to me!
Interesting Topic. Think about it, it is just sex talk the label of it being dirty is obnoxious to me. Now, I have learned to be careful with my sex language some of the things I express during ecstasy I may have to act out later like a BJTC.
But I find it to be refreshing and it gets the blood pumping before we both get home.
Talking dirty certainly helps to spice up a relationship! I first learned this when my girlfriend first started talking dirty to me. At first it was a big surprise as I wasn’t expecting it, but I found it a huge turn on! Once you get past that initial shyness or nervousness of knowing what to say and just go with the flow it becomes really fun!
You’re absolutely right, tonality is everything when it comes to dirty talk and I would also say controlling your tempo also helps to make a huge impact and builds an element of suspense.
Great article, thanks for sharing!