So you’re really interested in someone and have been texting back and forth for a little while and suddenly… gasp… the texts stop. They haven’t responded to you in a few days. What to do?
Here’s my short list of to dos in this situation, it’s pretty simple:
1. Enjoy your life
First of all, you should be so enthralled in your epic life that you shouldn’t be ‘waiting’ for someone to message or call you. So keep living your life and dating people and putting yourself out there.
Don’t let one person hold you back from moving forward and enjoying your life.
2. Give them a call
Honestly, if you really like the person the best thing you can do at this point is to call them on the phone and invite them out on a date. If they don’t respond to a voicemail, make up an excuse, or say no, you have your answer and you should move on with your epic life.
Note: If they say yes, and you go out and have a great time, you should definitely be asking them why they suddenly went MIA on you for a few days. Tell them that when you date people, you don’t expect to message each other all the time but you do expect communication, and if the person becomes too busy to message, you’d appreciate the heads up. Don’t be rude about it… keep it light… but make sure they take you seriously.
A conversation like this will let them know you have expectations and respect for yourself. It also indicates that you can put your big girl/boy pants on and communicate in a relationship, even when it’s not always comfortable to do so.
Here’s the thing… in the modern dating world, there are many distractions and many options for most people to date and meet others. If someone is easily distracted from you, it likely indicates that there is not a strong connection between the two of you to begin with. Your best bet is to remove them from your contact list and move on.
If someone is truly interested in you, they will reach out to you and let you know if they are going through a busy period in life and will not be able to communicate with you for a couple of days. When people drop off the radar without warning it is not usually a good sign. Not to mention, do you really want to start a relationship with someone who will just ignore you at the drop of a hat? Hell to the NO. Don’t you feel you deserve better? I’m here to tell you that you do!
When someone treats you with such little respect, and you continue to message them or text them things like ‘ok I guess we’re not talking anymore’, it makes you look sad and desperate; two qualities that are not attractive in the dating world.
Have respect for yourself and find someone who wants to talk to you and spend time with you! One final phone call will seal the deal and then you can either move forward with them or move on.
Remember, self-respect and self-love are the keys to finding a fulfilling and happy relationship!
Sally is a leading dating coach for single men and women who are looking for love. She offers free resources like an eBook entitled A Guide to Online Dating and can be found blogging away about dating and relationships on /. Follow her: Facebook: Instagram: