The male ego is fragile at best. On the outside males try to portray themselves as together and strong. The truth is, they also have needs and emotions which are often damaged in relationships and when they have a nasty break up. Also, who wants to keep looking for singles? For this reason, it is important to know what to say to your ex to get him back (that is if you want to get back together with him). Here are a few pointers:
- Admit you are wrong, say you are sorry
Men want to be right. If you want to open, their ears tell him you were wrong. Whether it was in ending the relationship, cheating on him or taking him for granted. Let him know you were wrong. Maybe you were spending too much money on clothes, hanging out with the girls, maybe you were being too clingy. If so, let him know in words you were wrong and he was right.
- Tell him what a good lover he was
Stroke his ego. Let him know what things he did that made him a good lover. If you can't think of any, I can't see why you want him back. Let him know the things he did right. If he was understanding, tell him this. If he was generous, let him to know it. Let him know why he means the world to you. Tell him things like :
‘You´re the only man who knows how to please me’
‘You're the best lover I´ve had’
‘You always understood me’
‘You have always been so generous’.
Be honest though – don't lie. He will see through this. Furthermore, compliment him on something you like about him now – whether it is his new haircut, better build or positive attitude let him know that you like what you see.
- Use psycho-tactics
It's a common known fact that females are emotional ninjas. Use this to your advantage. Reverse psychology is a brilliant tactic. Start agreeing with him on why he broke up with you, that he needs his space or on other contentious issues you had. This could confuse him, or make him think you have changed and make him question whether it is good to remain broken up.
- Be empathetic, be a shoulder to cry on
Listen to him and be empathetic to his feelings. Soon, you will get him to fall back in love with you.
Tell him you can understand why he feels a certain way. For example:
‘I understand why you feel like, this I can see why it hurts you’
In essence, let him know he can express his emotions to you in a safe environment. Be a shoulder for him to cry on. This shoulder might in time become your greatest tool in rekindling the relationship.
- Tell him how much you miss him
Let him know how much you miss him. Be specific let him know what it is about him you miss, for example: His sense of humour, wit or charm. Say things like:
‘I miss how much you made me laugh’
‘I miss your witty nature’
‘I miss your charm’.
By doing so, you could mend his, perhaps, injured ego. Also, let him know you miss your time shared together. This will give him a sense of value and being needed which could lead him to taking you back.
- Tell him that you still love him
Lastly, and most importantly, let him know you still love him. Tell him this as this is perhaps one of the most important things to do when it comes to the topic of what to say to your ex to get him back. A simple: ‘I still love you’ goes a far way.