As I was sitting in a local dessert shop with my older sister and grandmother, we started to ask her how she and our late grandfather met seventy years ago. As she tells her story with stars in her eyes, we could see that she remembers their wedding like it just happened yesterday. She says that her husband is her one and only love. While listening to her, it got me thinking as to why dating in their time was so simple and uncomplicated compared to .
Relationships in 2017 seem to be getting more frustrating and complicated than my high school math homework. But let’s get this out before anything else. Dating has never been easy for anyone. Everybody can attest to that, even my grandmother. Where she confessed that our grandfather’s parents were against their marriage. But what’s in the 21st century that made dating extra hard for everybody?
With the rise of technology and development of applications for just about anything, human beings tend to rely on these platforms that made everything easy. That includes dating. But on a harsher note, we don’t realize that this actually makes it harder.
Whenever we meet someone we like, we tend to look for them on social media sites and grab the chance at getting to know them without making the effort of saying even a simple “Hi!” That’s a the huge flaw that I see when I compare relationships today and relationships in my grandparents’ time.
Communication plays a huge role in our lives, it even plays a bigger role when starting a relationship or making it work. With technology, handing out more information that we can comprehend, we tend to focus on what we see on external values rather than communicating and getting to know them for real. Rather than sharing each other’s past experiences, we just simply go to their Facebook page and dig information. And whatever details that you’ve dug up, rather good or bad, you would conclude as to what kind of person they are based on it.
It's something that most of us are guilty of. Even me. As I got older and wiser (hopefully), when you want to get to know someone, ask them directly. When you’re already with someone, it’s always preferable to ask and talk it out.
Though this might differ in online dating where it’s a bit challenging to conclude that someone is who they say they are if you’ve never met personally. Whatever dating platform you’re on, whether it’s a dating site for gamers, single parents or Asians, it’s all a matter of trusting your gut and doing a bit of research in online dating tips.
The usual reminder that I give to myself was to never enter a relationship unless I’m ready. But that reminder always goes down the drain. As I remember my grandparents’ story, whether you like it or not, you can never control when love would come into your way. I know. Cheezy, right?
Communication is a vital part of creating relationships. For it to work and prosper, the two people involved have to be open with one another and not depend on information from social media just to know each other on a deeper level. Otherwise, wrong judgment and conclusions would be the result.
We’ve only just scratched the surface at the dating scenes in the 21st century. There is still a lot of ground to cover, hopefully, next time we could cover more. Good luck in dating! Have fun and spread the love!
Portia Linao is a full time Marketing Specialist by day and a writer by night. Her topics can be anything. From web development, down to relationships. She loves to read books while indulging herself with a huge jar of Nutella.