Have you been feeling disconnected from your partner lately? Or unable to effectively communicate your feelings? This may be because your relationship is lacking mindfulness.
For those who don’t already know, mindfulness is the concept of being present in the moment and fully aware of our thoughts and feelings.
Mindfulness is an important and essential tool for creating the happy and healthy relationship you deserve when it comes to love.
Check out this list of activities you can try with your partner to create a more mindful and stronger relationship.
Meditating with your partner is one of the best ways to align your energy and start treating each other more mindfully.
While it might seem like an activity to be done in solitude, there is actually a lot of power in meditating with a partner.
It has the ability to help you regulate your moods and increase feelings of empathy, both of which are greatly helpful in maintaining a healthy relationship. It is also known to increase the acceptance of other people.
Not to mention, meditation actually has the power to increase your libido, which never hurts in a relationship!
You can sit in the same room while working through your individual practices or listen to a guided meditation together.
There are quite a few great ones offered by Headspace here.
Similar to compliments, affirmations are words or phrases used to uplift a person and shift their mindset to a more positive place. They are a great way to uplift ourselves or another person by reminding them of their best qualities and everything they offer to the world.
Think about what kind of affirmations would make your partner feel special and set aside a time in the morning or at night where you can read them to the other.
Affirmations do not need to be long or deep. All that matters is that they make you feel good.
A few examples are things like:
“I am so glad I get to love you.”
“You deserve love and respect and I am happy to give that to you.”
“You are strong, beautiful, and kind. I am so lucky to call you my partner.”
Do this at least twice a week, as consistency is key in any mindfulness practice.
We are constantly breathing, but we very rarely take the time to notice our breath.
To practice breathing exercises together, fin a quiet and comfortable place without distractions.
Sit down, facing each other with your eyes closed.
Take a few deep breathes, in and out, noticing the air filling our lungs and softly emptying.
After a few moments of stillness, you can try an exercise like 4-7-8 breathing.
To begin, inhale deeply through your nose for a count of 4 seconds.
Hold the air in your lungs for a count of 7 before releasing the air through your mouth for a count of 8.
Continue this cycle up to seven times or until you feel centered. Then, your mind will naturally begin to shift into the moment and allow you to be more present with your partner.
The important part of partner breathing exercises is that you allow each other to take their breaths without distraction. But, unfortunately, that means you can’t open up your eyes until each of you has finished!
Now, it’s important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to mindfulness for couples.
However, next time you’re looking for a way to spice up or improve your relationship, I would definitely recommend that you try implementing one of these exercises to see what works best for you.
Rita Thompson is a writer for The Joy Within, an online school for meditation, happiness, and personal empowerment. As a writer, Rita strives to help shed light on underexplored topics to help others flourish and access their fullest potential. Learn more at thejoywithin.org or on Instagram @the_joy_within.