Category: Dating & Relationships

the Urban Dater often examines the intricacies of dating and relationships. Dating is hard enough and then relationships often cast another layer of difficulty into the mix. Hopefully, the stories our contributors share will help you in your own relationships or dating experiences.

How be an Attractive Man in Your 20s

I am closing on my late twenties in a couple years and I took some time off to reflect on what I did right, and what I did wrong in my dating life in my twenties. One of the best...

/ May 26, 2020

The Neuroscience of Moving On

Dr. Fisher and numerous anthropologists, psychologists, and neurologists alike all agree that love “on the brain,” exists. MRI scans support that the same areas of the brain that light up when experiencing highs from drugs, light up when you’re in...

/ May 21, 2020

Love & Corona: What Will Happen?

There’s nothing like a pandemic to stir up your dating life. The virus has upended the economy, public health systems, and politics of nearly every country in the world. Some more than others. People’s social lives, livelihoods, and personal lives...

/ April 22, 2020

Attention Isn’t the Same as Intention

Dating bloggers read other dating blogs. And dating gurus watch other dating gurus. One Holy Grail of a dating guru man is Matthew Hussey. His advice is both cathartic and chilling. Direct but compassionate. He described something so eye-opening: “Attention...

/ February 18, 2020

Spiritual Attraction: The Secret to Finding a Soul Mate

Finding a soul mate that you feel a strong connection with at all levels (spiritual, emotional, intellectual, physical and relational) is a gift from above, which also requires some inner work. I like to call it ‘soul-dating’. “Of course, true...

/ January 21, 2020

My Love Do(n't) Cost Things

Love isn’t Free. Materially or metaphorically, it isn’t. Here are four characteristics of why money isn’t the only thing but is in fact, a thing in relationships. It Depends On Your Lifestyle She’s dripping with Gucci and you can’t do...

/ January 2, 2020

Psychology of Good and Bad “Game,” and Its Consequences

A term that is ubiquitous among dating and relationship experts is “game.” “Mr. Locario – The Bad Boy of the Dating Game,” (mrlocario.com) from New York City, emphasizes the significance of game in his youtube videos, Patreon, web site and...

/ November 19, 2019

The Loophole in Long Distance Dating

Long distance relationships carry a bad rep for multiple reasons: the longing, the pain of being apart, the effort, the tests of trust and bonds, the investment, and essentially the lack of all physical, existential interaction. Ever thought of long-distance...

/ November 12, 2019