Category: Dating & Relationships

the Urban Dater often examines the intricacies of dating and relationships. Dating is hard enough and then relationships often cast another layer of difficulty into the mix. Hopefully, the stories our contributors share will help you in your own relationships or dating experiences.

Did I Waste My Time?

The first thing I said to my Tinder date, L, was “You’re probably wondering why I called you here today.” I shouted as I tried to elevate them above the dull roar of the Dodgers faithful at the Verdugo Bar,...

/ March 14, 2019

The Makings of Mr Nice Guy and How to Step Up

How many of us grew up believing the typical success story: that by ace-ing our grades in school, getting into University, followed by corporate employment is a form of success? You're ‘supposed’ to fall in love and get married, get...

/ January 30, 2019

Escaping The Friend Zone: How We Both Climbed Out Together

Knowing you’re in the friend zone can be a harsh reality. However, escaping the friend zone can be an impossible endeavor. Pulling that task off with your best friend may give you a fighting chance, if you’re lucky. My fiancé...

/ January 29, 2019

How to Spot An Orbiter (And What to Do About It)

Orbiter: the guy who cycles in and out of your life, usually for a need (physical, emotional, or mental), attention, or an ego boost. He gets his fill and then departs until he returns to ‘orbit.’ The preceding formal definition...

/ January 22, 2019

9 Reasons There May Not Be A Second Date

Congratulations! You finally got up the nerve to go on a date with that guy/girl you've been messaging for weeks. But what about the second date? Not happening? Certainly, getting to the second date has a lot to do with...

/ January 3, 2019

Why You Should Let Hip-Hop Get You Over Heartache.

“Sometimes a little ice cream helps when you are down in the dumps… But you know what? Music is a mood changer. If I am sad and I listen to something sad, a love song or whatever, I am going...

/ December 31, 2018

5 Barriers that are Ruining your Sex Life and how to Get over Them

If you are married, no doubt you want to have an amazing sex life with your partner. You want to, but it just doesn't seem to be happening. You've been getting along great, you feel loved and supported in your...

/ December 18, 2018
Perks and Perils Of Modern Dating

Perks and Perils of Modern Dating

In the sea of online dating and nightlife establishment options, you have access to a number of singles. The world of modern dating is confusing-it can be stressful to put yourself out there and begin new relationships. You need to...

/ December 13, 2018