What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse?

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First of all, while I come not to praise Fifty Shades of Grey, neither do I come to bury it. The bashing and dissecting of its prose style and its depictions of D/s relationships have already been done, sometimes to excess. Whatever its flaws might be, if the Fifty Shades makes you feel a nice, sexy glow in your nether regions, that's fine. Embrace the … [Read more...]

How to Talk Dirty to Your Man

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I've talked about talking dirty and how to go about it in the past. I haven't really covered how guys like dirty talk, too. It's not all that surprising. Men and women are, after all, sexual beings. The one thing I think a lot of folks, or at least some of the fellas I know, seem to think that dirty talk is a specific-use-case weapon, purely … [Read more...]

50 Shades of Are You Fucking Kidding Me?

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If you follow the Urban Dater on Twitter, you already know that I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey this last weekend (after downing three drinks in quick succession at the nearby Applebee's, naturally). The dear, dashing Bastard Keith did the same, and after much conversation between the two of us, we wanted to bring a hilariously informal discussion … [Read more...]

The Face-Sitting Protest of Censorship in the UK

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The X-Rated Power of the People You may have heard about that wacky protest that took place this winter, but what was it actually protesting against? If you've been following the news in recent months, you may have heard of an unusual protest taking place outside the Houses of Parliament. Taking place in December 2014, these so called 'face sitting … [Read more...]

Your Bullshit Shall Not Pass (and a Happy New Year!)

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Happy New Year from the Urban Dater! Another year has gone by--oh boy! I can hardly believe it’s 2015. Holy shit, dudes. I hate to be the bearer of bad (and obvious) news, but we’re all getting older (my little old lady ankles are my unfortunate evidence--I have to feel them EVERY MORNING). Hopefully we’re all getting a little wiser, a little more … [Read more...]