Your Bullshit Shall Not Pass (and a Happy New Year!)

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Happy New Year from the Urban Dater! Another year has gone by--oh boy! I can hardly believe it’s 2015. Holy shit, dudes. I hate to be the bearer of bad (and obvious) news, but we’re all getting older (my little old lady ankles are my unfortunate evidence--I have to feel them EVERY MORNING). Hopefully we’re all getting a little wiser, a little more … [Read more...]

Size Queen: Your New Dating Advice Columnist!

I like 'em seven inches or more, gents.

How do I introduce myself to you? This is like some mutated version of online dating, except I’m not going to coffee with any of you…yet. If this were a social gathering and you were a woman, I’d appear out of a whirlwind, extend my arms for a hug, and compliment your cute outfit, accessories, and/or boyfriend (though sometimes the former and the latter … [Read more...]

My First Threesome

My FIrst Threesome

It was almost 10pm. I was in my skivvies, watching something on Netflix, eating pickles from a jar and scratching my crotch. I know, it's hot. Right? I get a call. It's from a gal that I'm seeing, Julie. She asks me what I'm up to, I tell her that I'm just working on some projects, trying to solve the world's problems and generally being a badass. She cuts … [Read more...]

Passport to Love: Travel and Dating

London Escorts

Ask almost anyone whether you should travel while you’re young, single, and unencumbered by huge responsibilities and you’ll likely get a resounding “Yes!” Your grandmother’s loudly voiced concerns about your financial future notwithstanding, most people are incredibly supportive of the idea of travel especially when you’re in your twenties or thirties and … [Read more...]

Friends with Benefits…Without Intimacy?

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There are times in an adults life where a friends with benefits situation could be useful. I don't believe the concept is bad. However, when did having friends with benefits mean that there is no tenderness or intimacy? A person calls, makes an appointment, and the rendezvous is arranged. Does that mean that there is no civility, no respect, no intimacy?  … [Read more...]